The primary problem seems to be a matter of simplifications. We all make them. The difference lies in the simplifications we each variously tend to make. Here is another view, that though perhaps initially counter-intuitive, may be instructive.
First, let’s examine the case of a perfectly rigid body. If we take the area encircled by the lips, then the ‘sucking force’ can be easily localized. it’s hard to explain this in simple terms but if you envision a cylinder extending out from the lips, and see where it intersects the external surface of the spagetti, then the force will be equal to the pressure differential times the perpendicular component of external surface thus described
This means that the force on the rest of the body is irrelevant. It all balances. For Cecil’s purpose, it only matters that a ‘region of force’ can be described. [non-mouthward forces can also be shown to cancel out, due to a fundamental geometric property of closed surfaces) This works for non-rigid bodies as well. But I believe that Cecil’s point is that ‘in real life’ no such region can be described. I respectfully disagree.
There is no such thing as a perfectly rigid object (and spaghetti wouldn’t qualify, even if there was), so instead of envisioning the stress (force), try imagining the strain (deformation due to the force). We’ve all seen ‘stress pictures’ made with polarized light (in full-color magazines or museums of science, even if you aren’t experimentally inclined)
Two examples of common blatantly semi-rigid solids are Jello™ and Nerf™. If we were to suck on a 1-foot sphere of either of the above, it is easy to envision what would happen: it would deform (bulge) in the region between our lips.
Is that where the force is ‘exerted’? At the mouth? After all, it’s where the strain shows up!
Naturally the answer is “Yes and No”.
The force is exerted on the OBJECT over its entire surface, creating an internal pressure. But the strain is caused by the difference between the INTERNAL bulk pressure of the strand (jello, Nerf, whatever) in the atmosphere, and the portion inside your mouth. This is an effect of the difference in air pressure.
Aha -so this whole fight is because we’re really talking about two different things: external pressure (force) and internal pressure (stress). If you measured you could see a pressure (strain) gradient over a 3 dimensional region in the vicinity of the lips. (Many visible household demonstrations are possible - try using a bowl of relatively transparent jello, and a 1-liter soda bottle with the bottom cut off to simulate spaghetti and lips. Strain can be visualized with two pairs of polarized glasses held at angles. Small bubbles in the jello can be seen to expand to differing degrees, as well)
Perhaps you find this explanation unsatisfying. Think of a bathyscape at 1500 meters. The water doesn’t seem to be doing anything. It’s just sitting there. the bathyscape doesn’t seem to be doing anything either, it is just resisting through its rigidity. However, let the tiniest leak develop, and it will become immediately obvious that tremendous forces are at work. The water jet could slice a limb off. But where is the force ‘exerted’ that pushes the water jet through the leak? On the surface of the water? No, it’s entirely internal pressure (roughly the weight of the water above the bathyscape = 1500 tonnes/m^2 = 1 ton/sq.in.)
If a bathyscape springs a leak on its bottom surface, does anyone have any difficulty seeing that a lethal force will be exerted upwards. If Cecil rejects this explanation because he cannot see ‘where the upward force is exerted’ would we need to re-examine how water pressure works?
I think not.
Pressure is a bulk property. It has several counter intuitive “emergent” properties as a result (Even something as simple as Bernouli’s principle can really surprise you sometimes) However, I don’t think that the spaghetti example contains anything very surprising.