Okay, it must be summer, because I sat there in church this morning behind a very nice lady, hard-working mother-of-two, who always wears sleeveless dresses in the summer, and the thing is, she always has a bra strap showing on one side, up on the back of her shoulder, in the armhole. You know what I mean? The dress is cut with a deep armhole, so you can see the bra strap in back on one (or sometimes both) sides.
There are a couple of other women in my church who do this, too, and I’m sorry but I just don’t get it. In the time and place where I grew up, having a bra strap showing said “slut”, and I don’t understand why these women don’t try the thing on in the store, and turn around and LOOK to see whether you can see the strap. Or why don’t their husbands tell them? “Honey, I can see your bra strap.”
It wouldn’t bother me so much except that these are otherwise well-dressed women. One is an LPN, the one I was sitting behind this morning is an office manager for a big company, so we’re not talking about trailer-park trash here.
Or am I hopelessly out of date, and thanks to Madonna’s hard work, having a bra strap showing no longer shouts “slut”? Should I just be thankful that these two pillars of the church aren’t wearing their bras on the outside of their clothes? (You probably don’t want to hear my extremely old-fashioned views on women who don’t wear bras at all.)
Bra strap showing…that raises the question of…SO!?
BFD if a bra strap is showing. Why does that mean ‘slut’? It’s a piece of usually white material (sometimes colored) that’s about or less then one inch wide… It’s an article of clothing, no more, no less. Is it because it supports breasts? (Yes people, I mentioned the word * breast*
Guess what, other then illnesses and other accidents, all women have breasts. And breasts serve a purpose (Well, they serve lots of purposes) And bras serve a purpose. And bra straps serve a purpose…so I’m not seeing your problem.
[sarcasm] Obviously these women are soliciting sex. Why else would they have the gall to wear comfortable shirts AND a bra. It’s the only possible solution. I can here it now, in the morning when these women wake up. “Well, I’m going to church today, and I want people to stare at me…so I will show off a thin strap of white material! Yes, that’s the ticket! Nothing will turn a man on more then a bra strap!” [/sarcasm]
I don’t think so.
Ha! Hear Hear peppy!
I only wear black ones, so it kindo flooks(if it shows) like another top.
I have solved the problem, however, by wearing strapless bras.
Right on to the previous 3 posters. Plus, there’s nothing wrong with not wearing a bra at all! Yes, I’m a man, but I’m not saying that cause I get my jollies off seeing braless women. Ever since I moved to Europe two years ago, I realized that quite a lot of woman – none of whom I would consider sluts – don’t wear any bra during the summer. And ya know what? Big frickin’ deal! My girlfriend often goes without during the summer because to her they’re uncomfortable and hot. I certainly don’t think she’s a slut.
I honestly don’t understand why some people are so uptight about this issue.
OK, Pepper, I hear ya, Peaches, too. Like I said, it must be a generational thing, because back in the Fifties, it was a definite no-no for “nice girls”. Also, having the hem of your slip showing was considered a kind of a slutty thing to do.
I know my “church ladies” aren’t advertising for sex, I just wonder if they know that their straps are showing. And also, the one in front of me today was wearing a BLACK bra! You probably don’t want to hear my admittedly old-fashioned views on different colored ladies’ underwear (“nice girls don’t wear red satin bras”, etc.) Sorry, can’t help it, just the way I was brought up, please don’t hit me, not trolling or anything, OK?
Also have to vote a big “thumbs down” on women going bra-less. Sorry, folks. Nice girls don’t have nipples.
Peaches, you shouldn’t have mentioned strapless bras. Now I have to go run some laps and take a cold shower…Hubba hubba! [insert emoticon of tongue hanging out here]
Well, rather than argue with this, I’ll just say that perhaps in your culture and your generation “nice girls” didn’t have nipples, but it my culture and my generation, there’s nothing the matter with that.
As pet peeves go, it’s ok. As a basis for moral judgement, it’s lacking.
Women have nipples. So do men, but for some reason we’re allowed to show ours. IMO, moral constraints against the human body are silly. But then, I didn’t grow up in the 50’s. (Hell, I grew up in the seventies. Nipples for all!)
Duck, you said:
And again IMO, that time has fortunately passed. You have admitted that having a strap showing doesn’t make someone a slut, right? I know it sucks, but things change. Women are even allowed to have birth control now. My stars . . .
My objection is not to your opinion, though I disagree. I object to you using your age as an excuse to hang on to clearly outdated and horrifically judgemental attitudes.
Showing a bra strap shouts slut. Please. And I’ll thank you not to be leading the world to believe other people of your age have clung to such clearly foolish thinking as a generational difference.
Base and judgemental attitudes toward others, based on nothing deeper than their clothes, and on a Sunday while you’re in a Christian church. It boggles my mind.
But you should at least know that this is not a generational thing. I know many people of this generation who do not cling to such outdated attitudes.
Your own bad thinking is just that, your own. That you are aware it is outdated and even wrong, yet still cling to it speaks volumes.
Well, I really wouldn’t point to the Fifties as a paradigm of moral behaivor Duck. The McCarthey Hearings, Segregation…etc etc. I realize that has nothing to do with bra straps, but you know what? The people in the Fifties were no better then people are now.
I agree with Elbows.Apparently, the Fifties were also a time of extreme self-righteousness and judgemental attitudes. So far, I see no reason why anybody now should give a rats ass about what people were raised like in the Fifties.
I agree. Duck, you should be pleased that these women are wearing bras to beging with. They are horrible, torture devises, especially in the hot summer.
[sarcasm] Well I know when I die, God is going to look at me and say “Sorry, you wore a black bra because it matched your black dress. And the strap was even visible! You are not a nice girl. You are going to burn in hell.” [/sarcasm]
Oh, and yes. They are probably aware the strap is showing. They probably planned in that way just to piss people like you off. (More sarcasm)
Duck, I don’t think the showing of their bra straps was intentional. After moving around constantly, their bra straps would no doubt shift out of place.
Since they are sitting next to their husbands, and not in front of them, it would be hard for their husbands to see. I would venture to say that once they got up from the bench, their husbands pointed it out to them, and they moved their bra straps back under their sleeves.
Now, as for the color of the bra, this is purely a matter of preference. I mean, there are some who find that white is too common, so why not stray from the norm a little? There is nothing wrong with individuality.
Until you’ve actually worn one of these modern-day torture devices, you really can’t intelligently comment on the issue of wearing a bra vs. not wearing one. I’ve been wearing one for the past 7 years or so and let me tell you, they are far from comfortable - and that’s even without underwire. Any chance I can get to go without a bra, especially in the summertime, I do. Am I a so-called slut because of it? No. Comfortable? You bet.
This is also one of my pet peeves. The poor ladies in the OP are trapped into buying clothes in today’s world. They probably don’t have/take the time/money to search out clothes that would both be in style and were cut/fitted properly.
Rilchiam said
Amen! My teen and pre-teen boys walk around with their pants halfway to their ankles, boxers flowing behind them. Are they dressed in today’s fashion? You bet! Do they look like slobs? You bet! Would they go for a job interview looking like that? Not likely.
Next, not wearing a bra. If god gave you breasts that are tastefully small/medium, and you care to go without, go for it. You’re the envy of your sisters. I can only assume that Lynn et al aren’t like some of the women who come into my place of business in the summer, slinging around pendulous mounds of flesh under thin t-shirts. Not exactly a turn-on.
Elbows–If you never owned a bra til you were 40, why would you buy one now??
I believe in allowing anyone to show any part of their body anytime they want to. As long as they don’t frighten the horses.
But I remember my ex-mother-in-law, a real old Southern Belle from a good family(but not much money), teaching me(a Yankee) that being a good host/hostess was making your guests feel comfortable without letting them see you sweat doing it. That’s class. So is not showing your underwear.
When I quit smoking, I bulked up to a whopping 122 lbs, from a scrawny 99 lbs, most all of it bum and boobs.
When it first happened, I could not have been happier. Parts that actually jiggle, well, it had been a long time dream.
Eventually I got a bra, now I wear it even when I don’t go to work, sometimes if I’m going out of the house. And, I suspect it barely qualifies as a bra, it’s made entirely of tee shirt material and has one elastic for around the torso, not even a clasp. It was the most comfortable one I could find.
But, to tell you the truth, it’s been a year or more now, and it’s growing a little old. The joy has gone, and I’d give anything to go back to having smaller breasts. Wearing a bra is a big drag if you ask me.
If I wore a bra, I’d wear an F cup. I don’t wear thin t-shirts. I don’t wear bras because they HURT. All of the F cup bras that I can find have wires in them, or do no good at all. YOU try wearing wires that poke into sensitive parts of your body!
I do not CARE if I turn anyone on or not. If you don’t like my pendulous mounds of flesh, don’t undress me with your eyes.
