Jeesh, these days, kids are getting abducted out of their homes while their parents sleep.

My wife and I are going to have a baby soon, we’ve been discussing the OP lately and wondering how we will act. I often rode my bike up to a mile a way by the time I was 8 or 9, played army in the woods, went exploring, etc… she did much of the same but had her brother with her. I climbed trees fifty feet high, shot off fireworks on my own, owned a knife or two, had a slingshot, an archery set and a pellet gun. By the time I was thirteen or fourteen I was camping in the woods by myself (well, I had my dog for protection, as well as the aforementioned weapons/toys ) I’d also earned four or five different sets of stitches and coulntless cuts and bruises. And then there are the things I did that my parents never knew about. I was nearly killed at age six when I did a 180 on a go-cart right in front of an unseen oncoming car. Some of those firecrackers went off in my hand, I played with fire and gasoline, smoked some reeds, found some porn mags, got into fights, snuck out of the house, shoplifted some firecrackers from … hmm, actually they found out about that one. They were very disappointed, first time I ever got the silent treatment and damn did it hurt worse than the spanking I was expecting. But they were all learning experiences, and I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if I had missed out on too many of them. I’m glad I wasn’t over surveilled when I was a kid. (The go-cart incident wasn’t my parents fault, I was at a birthday party at a friend’s house that lived in the country.)
Hell, my first sexual experience was in kindergarten when the cute little girl next to me offerred to “show you mine if you show me yours”. (Naturally I made her go first
) But we were actually in class at the time! It was naptime but the room was lit by the sunlight from outside and the teacher was just on the other side of the room. At the age of five kids have a bit of a libido and quite a natural curiosity, there are just some things they’re going to do unless you hold their hand 24/7. (Better hold both hands actually.) But I accept that and believe that it is important to let kids know that it is inappropriate without freaking them out and scaring/scarring them over it if you happen to catch them at it.
So I’d like for my future child(ren) to have as much fun as I had, I just don’t know if I can actually bring myself to let them have that much autonomy as early as I had it. I feel like I’m going to wind up being a worrywart. I think though if we start relinquishing direct supervison graudally as he matures and demonstrates responsibility, we should be safe.
Then there are the abduction fears. I had hoped Uncle Cecil would set my mind at ease with this recent article
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/020712.html
but even though the stats were somewhat settling I still don’t feel entirely relieved. I want to move to the country and own lots of dogs. Rottweilers and mastiffs. They’re great with kids because they don’t have tails to be yanked. 