This. It was pretty clear you didn’t need anyone to “talk you into” this surgery. It’s what you were going to do regardless. That’s fine, but at least admit that.
And if you can’t control your portions now, how will this change after the surgery? You can keep pushing and pushing the small amounts you can eat, so then your stomach stretches and you can eat a bit more, and a bit more. I hate to be a downer, but you must work on portion control before the surgery or it won’t be the long term solution you’re hoping for.
Like Sticks and Scones, I wish you nothing but the best and do hope this is the answer you are looking for. I say this without any attempt at being snarky, so please don’t read it that way, but I do hope you’re also seeking therapy. There are therapists that special in not just addiction, but food addiction. If you don’t treat the disease that’s causing you to overeat, treating the symptom of overeating wont fix ya long term. I’d absolutely do this in conjunction with the surgery, just to make sure you don’t revert back to where you started.
I wish you nothing but the best, maastricht. I’ve struggled with my weight for all my adult life, and if this works for you, you have my most heartfelt congratulations.
The DS, which I had, is the one with the best track record for maintaining your weight loss. I’m 9 years out and doing fine. I have heard lots of stories of people regaining the weight from gastric bypass especially.
Your link goes to a discussion of lap band surgery, not gastric bypass.
The one friend I have who underwent WLS (lap band) had a lot of complications, the band itself failed, and long story short, she has gained back any weight she lost. And I know that she did extensive research before making her decision.
All I know is that I have only had one minor surgical procedure done (on the inside of my nose) and the recovery was SO FUCKING PAINFUL that it will take a lot to ever make me go under the knife again. I can’t imagine having any surgery done unless it was seriously the last resort.
Wow, that is soon! I wish you the very best and hope that your recovery is smooth. My friends who had it done said that the 2 most important things were to follow the post-surgery diet to the letter and to walk the amount they tell you to walk, starting when they tell you to do it. Getting up and moving around hurts and will be difficult, but it’s extremely important to avoid other complications.
The numbers on Gastic bypass aren’t stellar either, though, but a lot better then nothing. And good news for me, as I eat to much, but I don’t binge. Here are some numberson gastric bypass:
How many calories a day are you eating now? Have you even tried to figure out how many you’re eating now, and exactly how much you would need to eat to get to a healthy weight?
I want to add that I have been in your position before, not terribly heavy, and constantly fighting portion control. After time and time of “blowing it”, I’ve lost 25+ pounds since the 1st of the year, through careful calorie counting, both what I’m taking and what I’m burning off. It’s all simple math, and I understand that the hard part is willpower.
That being said - I see no logic in your hope that, after losing the weight through surgery, you will have higher self-esteem and be more in control of your body. Clearly, having the surgery is a clear admission that you are unable to control your body. In addition, I am unable to understand how giving up on yourself and losing weight through surgery will add much to your self-esteem. I of course see how you would feel like you looked better, and would be more confident, but wouldn’t giving up on yourself make you feel like more of a failure?
So why do all the other surgeries still exist? Paricularly the lap bands, which sound pretty unpleasant. I’m not trying to be snarky (for some reason I can’t seem to type this out without it sounding snarky in my head) - I don’t know much about WLS but I don’t understand why inferior procedures would persist. Maastrich - good luck to you. I have struggled with my weight for many years and I know it feels like an endless battle. Although I weigh less than you (I’m about the same height as you and around 180) I seem to fight constantly with the same 20 to 30 pounds. I know it could be worse, but it is hugely frustrating and knowing it’s completely my fault doesn’t help. I can’t imagine choosing the surgery, but I realize I’m not in your shoes and only you know what you should do. I wish you well.
Also I’d like to thanking you for directing me to your earlier thread, if only for the entirely hilarious (and also hilariously ignored) comment by SmashTheState. I had forgotten how crazy that guy was. Good times.
Because the gastric bypass is a far easier surgery to do, and it’s the one people ask for because they’ve heard of it. There are fewer doctors trained to do the DS and it’s a harder, longer procedure. The rate of success is FAR higher, though, especially in the long term.
I might just be talking out of my ass here, so please do correct me if I’m wrong- but is it maybe because the DS is also completely irreversible, while the others offer some level of reversibility?
I had a great friend who had gastric bypass surgery. She said it hurt a lot and she had to exercise iron will afterward to keep her food intake to where it was supposed to be. She lost 140 pounds as a result of the whole process. Her aunt went in for the surgery at the same time as she did and did not get the same results. She looked at it as a “magic bullet” and did not have the discipline to stick with the program.
My friend’s weight loss did not make her thin, but it did take her out of the dangerously obese range where she had been. As the years went by she gradually started gaining weight back. I would guess she regained a third of the weight.
Ok, this is not easy for me to talk about. She died in January of a blood clot in her lung. This certainly could be related to being overweight and having a job where she sat in a chair all day.
I don’t want to talk you into or out of the surgery. It was painful and required a ton of discipline. Strict diet and exercise sounds like a better deal to me as that requires the same sacrifices, but I can’t say for sure. I have seen what can happen if you fail.
