Oh, and I’m 89% convinced that the reason Europe achieved social democracy in the 1950s was because three generations of hyper-aggressive, overly-testosteroned asshole men spent the previous 35 years slaughtering each other, thereby reducing their toxic blend of selfishness, control, and anti-intellectualism from the political sphere for a few crucial decades.
You can’t make this argument, of course, because its implication is that to improve society, you just need to kill the right people.
IIRC, your husband wasn’t even aware that covered pots boil faster.
I hope you are allowing him to cook his own instant ramen for the next six weeks to calibrate his scale.
“I’d like to introduce you to my first Wife”
:Stern look:
“Well, you are.”
No we do not. Anyway if you don’t volunteer you won’t be missed. There’s billions of hands raised.
Put aside your hammer and get a vasectomy.
I think this is true, it’s just there are a lot more in that category than most imagine.
In my opinion, there is a dividing line between people who are energized and renewed by social interaction and those who are drained by it and must take time to be alone and quiet to recalibrate themselves. This is a physical and probably genetic difference about how stimulation is processed. However, there is only a tenuous alignment of that duality and social talent. Just because you can/cannot make clever social small talk and are a good/poor listener doesn’t make you either introverted or extraverted. iIt’s a common confusion.
This must be an unusual neighborhood. My wife is on ours all the time and has many positive experiences. Nearly every single day, somebody is dropping things off at our house free (fresh eggs, an unused kitchen appliance, some crafting supplies) or picking something up (old newspapers, table lamps we no longer need, a special tool). We also learn about suspicious characters and vehicles in the neighborhood, recent break-ins, deaths and illnesses, electrical and water service work, contractors, and so forth.
The whole debate about nature vs. nurture when it comes to why some people from certain groups, whether racial, religious, political, etc. tend to behave badly / do evil shit. The answer is obviously nurture / culture. The flip side of that is that some cultural traits are toxic, and excusing them because “that’s our / their culture” shouldn’t be accepted. Sometimes cultures need to be changed. No, I’m not just picking on various minority cultures. This also applies to conservative white Christian men, perhaps even more so than most minority cultures.
“…to my ex-fiancée.”
I agree with this
This might have been mentioned, but I loathe most holidays. Thanksgiving the most, closely followed by Christmas. I came from a dysfunctional family and they were always a shitshow. (plus I despise f’ing turkey)… Also, this would put me in jail, if it were possible, but birthdays for adults and anniversaries. The whining over birthdays and anniversaries, if the whole world doesn’t grind to a stop to acknowledge them, and bring you presents, and yummy cake while you sit there modestly accepting tribute. (The big ones, when you turn 21, or 50, or 75, ok, I will allow that.) If you are 37 and pouting that you didn’t get a hundred happy barfday cards, a party with balloons and a clown and a pony (or the adult equivalent) - you are pathetic…I smile and nod and leave as soon as possible, but though I’m not saying anything against a jolly celebration, I only tolerate it.
I don’t. I think there is a continuum between extroversion and introversion, and some of this may be situational, mood-related, age-related, etc. I don’t like this binary nature of “ooh, I’m an introvert, I’ll post all these cool memes about introversion now that it’s apparently cool to be an introvert” or whatever. I myself go through periods of introversion and extroversion, and my wife seems exactly the same, with periods of much interaction with people and getting energy from it, and periods of solitude and recharging. Textbook “ambiverts” I guess. When I was young, I was a textbook extrovert, talking to anyone and everyone in my midst and constantly seeking conversation and interaction. By high school, I leaned towards introversion, wanting to spend most my time doing my thing, but still liking/desiring the company of friends. Now I’m right in the middle. I get energy both from prolonged social interaction and I get energy from days alone. I don’t think any of this is as simple as a line between introversion and extroversion. I personally find it an annoying characterization. I also hate Myers-Briggs with the fury of a thousand suns. “Oooh, I’m an INTP, what are you?” “I don’t fucking care.” (OK, I took those tests when I was in college for fun, and it seemed every time I did two of the letters would change in describing me, and sometimes a third.)
I saw the internet meme where somebody had posted “I want to let everyone know that Jane and I are no longer dating.”
And underneath this there was a response from Jane, “That is not the way to tell people we got married.”
Yep, and that’s part of what scares me about admitting democracy is failing. Civil War isn’t anything like a good idea, and we really have no idea what kind of society would emerge on the other side, no matter who fights or who wins.
I agree. I’d be happy if the Republicans never win another election. But I’m not so opposed to the Republicans that I want to see pogroms against them.
I also worry that there are people on the left who, if given the opportunity, would behave just as badly as people on the right are acting.
You can’t tell Myers-Briggs people that M-B is just a fancier horoscope.
I did this test many years ago when I first stated my job. I didn’t like the structure of the test, but I played it as straight as I could, and looked at my result. They had a listing of “personality traits” for each class, and yeah, the one I was assigned seemed kind of accurate. I’d say maybe 70% of the traits were ones I show to at least some extent. Then I read all the other descriptions.
If you had randomly assigned me a class, the worst result of the descriptions would have been about 50% accurate, and there were several classes that I would have rated as more accurate than my “official” class. There’s virtually no useful information in such a system.
To be fair, the original research into personality tests did not make grandiose claims or mean for the test to be used as it is now. It is a rough guideline, not a proper business plan.
Is it weird to see grown ups play with children’s toys, playing pretend with action figures or dolls, yes I do think that’s weird.
Long ago when dinosaurs roamed the earth and hams used Morse Code to communicate YL (Young Lady) was the standard term for one’s girlfriend* and FYL (Former) for wife.
*If there were any female hams around I never across one.
Yes, I agree. It’s not binary, it is often expressed situationally and culturally. And Meyers-Briggs is a party game.
But there is also the Highly Sensitive Person thing, which overlaps, and in my opinion actually better describes what we think of as “introversion”. The name is a coinage of a psychologist, Elaine Aron, who, in the early 1990’s crunched the data of as many studies as she could find and came up with the hypothesis that about 15-20% of the populace – worldwide, it isn’t a cultural trait – have different wiring such that they have a much lower reaction threshold to stimuli. All stimuli. So, what for the majority of people would be a pleasurable, sought-after experience, the HSP finds overwhelming. There are nuances, but that’s the gist of it. It’s a whole Thing now, with tee shirts and coloring books, but when I encountered it, she was doing seminars in the Bay Area explaining it as a brand new concept.
I test unambiguously HSP, always have. The change I’ve noticed over time is that I’ve become even less resilient than I was in my thirties. But I attribute this to aging, I mean, so are my knees.