Note that there is a reason why it’s called codependency; the person being depended upon depends upon being depended upon.
In regards to being an open pocketbook for offspring and their offspring.
This must be a temptation for every parent. It feels good to be needed. But at a certain point, yeah, the goal is not to be needed anymore.
I appreciate it. We miss her. Our other cat seems to be trying to make us feel better, which is sort of sweet.
What really sucks is being an open wallet by proxy. Read: older family member gives generously to younger, none too responsible family member with money that said older can’t really afford to part with. Said elder in turn comes to Mr Proxy asking for funds to cover the inevitable shortfall that resulted from previous generosity.
My 1st thought was, “Watch, they flushed the toddler’s diapers.”
Yeah I figured they probably flushed baby wipes or something. Nope. Just some tree roots growing through the pipe.
Septa (south eastern Pennsylvania transit authority) is a cancer that should be cut from the earth. Today there was a detour on my bus route due to construction. I waited at the regular stop. The driver came from another direction. It being Septa, he didn’t bother to look for people waiting at the regular stop. Nor, did he respond to our yelling and waving when we saw him.
You’re riding Septa- bend over and take it.
I used to live in a “mother-in-law house” for years, and my landlord had to take care of roots in our pipes on a regular basis. It was a pain because it was constantly keeping our plumbing from working.
I lived in west Philadelphia for a few horrible years, so I have had some experience with SEPTA. When Philadelphia got a bad snowfall the bus driver pulled the bus to the curb. He was near his house and was bailing out, leaving a bus load of people stranded near 63rd street.
I was about a mile away from my apartment in Landsdowne, so I walked. It sucked, but was doable. But there were people on the bus aged/infirm who had no idea how they’d get home.
i call that septa roulette. round and round the bus goes…where it stops no body knows.
it is a mess of a transit, and now they are trying to gut it completely. it is beyond frustrating.
It wasn’t said in so many words but it seems that way. It’s a truly fucked up situation.
We kind of just keep moving in the direction we were going and do as much as we can without her, putting off what we need her for. Her boss has taken over her approvals for purchasing and the capital approval system so at least we aren’t completely dead in the water. But we need her for engineering direction and we won’t be getting that for a long while.
I truly don’t know what to do for her other than to pray and give her space. There are no words I can say that will make her feel any sort of better and she has already expressed that she isn’t ready to see us. Maybe I’ll send her some food. I don’t know.
Did you spend most of your days on a playground?
(Sorry, I couldn’t help it.)
I am about to go on a cruise Yay!. Just found out the stuff I use to sleep has hemp seed in it and is banned on board Boo!
Rejuvia, is the only thing I have found that works without heavy drugs or weird side effects.
The computer I remote into for work purposes is a Windows PC. I don’t mean this to be one of those “Macs rule Windows drools” OS-partisan thingies; I’m sure it’s another case of “what you’re familiar with seems natural” situations, but…
Workflow involves dragging a bunch of file attachments from email into a folder and then opening the attachments and processing each until done then, as I go, tossing them into a “done” folder. In the Mac world, files are always in an order: sorted by Name or sorted by Creation Date or sorted by Modification Date or whatever. In Windows, the damn files can be unsorted, or, rather, sorted by “when was it tossed into this here folder” with newly added ones going to the bottom regardless of where they’d be in alpha or date order. I could get used to that but the issue is that the damn folder randomly decides to sort its files. Triggered perhaps by me needing to make some other folder active to go look at an old file. Suddenly the one I was working on a momen ago is no longer the topmost file. Bloody fucking hell, which of these is the one I just finished and should be dragged into the Done folder?
Yeah I know, I should click the Name header and make it sort by name after dragging the files in. But yeesh who thought this arrangement was a good idea?
I was doing some training exercises in the yard with Simi, our coconut retriever yesterday. Our one neighbor waved me over. She and her husband are 14 years older than we are (we are both 65, they are both 79). They used to be very young looking/acting for their age. Then she battled breast cancer requiring several major surgeries and multiple rounds of chemo. She is now frail.
She told me she had made lots of lasagna for a dinner party with friends, and now the friends couldn’t make it. She told me if I brought over some Tupperware containers she would share her bounty. Cool!
I took Simi inside and went over with a few containers. Her husband answered the door. I told him why I was there and he just broke down crying. Turns out his wife made lasagna for a dinner party. The other couple was driving up from Maryland and spending a weekend but they were in a car accident and they were both killed. This happened 25 years ago. Damn. I knew she was looking frail, but I had no clue she had deteriorated mentally.
My gf went over to discuss how we could help him. He said he would really appreciate if one of us could stay with her every so often so he could go shopping.
Look here, I’ve been supporting Windows systems professionally in an enterprise environment for decades.
And you’re spot on. Windows just fucks around with folder sorting and it’s a real pain in the ass.
Good on ya Kayaker. Dementia is a horrific thing for all involved.
Second rant: with all the furor over AI, why the fuck can’t AI take over those goddam phone trees where you’re asked to say what you’re calling about and it slots you into the queue, but can only recognize a few possibilities and they’re all wrong?
“Please say what you’re calling about”
“Your software activation dialog is freezing when I paste in my registration code”
“Please say: ‘I want to buy a new license’ or ‘Cancel my subscription’ or ‘I need technical support’ or…”
“Technical support”
"Please say ‘My software won’t install’ or ‘I need help getting on the internet’ or … [etc] or say ‘Other’ "
“Other”
“Please say ‘I can’t locate my password’ or ‘My mouse fell off the table’ or ‘The power went off and now my computer isn’t working’ or say ‘Other’…”
Last month I had ranted about my refrigerator Freezer drawer frosting up. I completely emptied it into my upright freezer before going away for a week. When I got back on Wednesday I tried to open it and it’s completely sealed shut. As in when I pulled on the handle the whole refrigerator starting sliding forward. I tried turning the freezer temp to it’s lowest setting, but that didn’t help. Unfortunately, I can’t turn the freezer completely off without also turning off the fridge too.
I suppose now I’m going have to call in a professional to fix it.
I’m sick, my kid is sick, so we are home together today.
And I’m potty training every 45 minutes and trying to get work done in the 30 minutes between trips.
Everything was going swimmingly until my kid started mashing buttons on my computer. Now I’m locked out of my remote network.
FML.