I went to use the microwave tonight and when I opened the door, the glass front fell off and shattered into many hundreds of tiny little pieces. Glass shards bounced all over the kitchen floor. And I was barefooted. I was smart enough not to move until I could get a paper towel and clear a path for me to get away from the mess. Cleaning all that up was a pain in the butt.
Now I get to go shopping tomorrow, the day before Thanksgiving, to get a new one after I made sure I had everything I need and would not have to get out. Awesome. I guess I should be happy it did not happen tomorrow night, which would have really, really sucked. Hey, there’s something to be thankful for!
I think advertisers are trying to be edgy and get attention without breaking rules, so they play these verbal childhood playground games which come off as really juvenile. It puts me off too.
Unfortunately, I only get to see my Aunt three times a year, and this means only twice. She has a surgery in February and is avoiding contact until then. I probably won’t see her until March. I texted with her a little, as she knows this is a hard time of year for me.
We are trying to make the best of it. We spent a leisurely morning playing the new Super Mario Brothers Wonder on switch, and trying to teach Wee Weasel how to play. He loves to watch the number of collected coins go up. It is a really cute and fun and colorful game.
Tonight, we’re ordering in from one of my favorite places to order in.
The real thing I’m struggling with is burnout. I am focusing on rest to the greatest extent possible.
My husband was hugely improved today. He was sitting in the chair and interacting with the nurses etc. When they asked him who we were, he looked at my son and said, “My son” and when they pointed at me he said, “My wife.” He was also able to say hi and bye to my daughter on the phone. He still struggles to get words out, and some words are garbled, but it was night and day from yesterday. I rounded that corner into the room and saw him sitting and looking around and I think I took my first clean breath in a coule of days.
Full transparency: This is my fault. I’d been worrying about the Sinemet he takes for Parkinson’s. It’s mostly for tremors which until this incident he didn’t have any. We were having a bunch of other seemingly unrelated issues, so when he was running out I just sort of didn’t get around to refilling it. That was a bad, tragic, arrogant, and incredibly stupid mistake. It’s a Dopamine Agonist or something and withdrawl from it causes confusion, fever, and more pronounced Parkinson’s symptoms. He tremors or he did. Reintroducing the Sinemet is what has turned this around. I owe him a huge apology. He’s going to be pissed, but at least he is going to be able to be pissed.
On the “bright side?” They did a swallowing test and found some sort of mass in his trachea. Parkies causes trouble swallowing, and interferes with the voice. Hopefully this incident found whatever this thing is early and it can be addressed. Maybe he’ll be able to swallow and talk better.
It sounds like you learned from it, though, so please don’t beat yourself up too much. With everything you’re dealing with as a caretaker I can’t even imagine how you hold it together. Mistakes are inevitable. You are only human.
I’m so glad he has turned a corner and I hope you’re able to have a nice Thanksgiving.
Thank you. I guess my mistakes are go big or go home. We’re holding off TG until he gets home or at least until I can manage to cook it. Which ever comes first. I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving. I know you have some issues so I hope you enjoy it in spite of all that.
I have a friend spending the week with me. We had our Thanksgiving dinners delivered from Wegman’s, which were pretty good.
I think you’re being overly generous there.
I’m going back up to Chicago next week, and one of the things I’m going to have to do when I get home is find someone to come over and figure out why my freezer door won’t open. Fortunately there’s nothing in it; I’d previously emptied it so I could defrost it, but then found out that there’s no way to turn the freezer off without also turning off the refrigerator. While I was out of town for a week the interior frost apparently built up to the point where it sealed the door shut.
They just opened this Wegman’s two years ago. I probably should shop there more often, because they’ve got a nice selection and good prices. Unfortunately, their website is hard to use to check for sale prices, so it’s hard for me to make up a shopping list.
That’s the truth. I’m at the hospital now. He is mentally back to normal. Physically he’s weak, but they’ve had him up and walking today. So relieved. I wasn’t sure he was going to be able to come home at all.
Just before Christmas of 2020, my best friend was unresponsive and his wife called the ambulance. Turned out he’d had a stroke. He went into a coma and he was in it for months. There was no guarantee he would live. He “woke” but was unresponsive. We didn’t know if he was aware of his surroundings but his wife visited him daily and I chatted with him on Zoom multiple times a week. Then all of a sudden he could talk, it was like a miracle. He had lots of problems speaking and he got confused easily but he could actually talk.
He became good enough to move to a rehabilitation center. Doctors were sure he’d never walk again and it wasn’t sure if he could go home. But he improved and his wife made sure he came home, and he could walk with a walker. His mind recovered a bit at a time.
3 years later, he can walk though he usually takes a cane with him to be safe. He is 90% of the way back to his own self. He’s retired, won’t be able to work again, will never be able to drive. But he can still function and hang out and live his life mostly normal. He has memory issues and can’t do math well and has other issues but seeing where he is compared to what he was at, the word “miracle” really is the only word to describe it.
I hope your husband fully recovers and there are little to no long term effects from this scare.
We requested a dinner from a church, they were serving and delivering. It was the worst. The turkey was sliced packaged turkey, all slippery. The stuffing blah, the mashed potatoes packaged. Taco bell would’ve been better.
I’m so glad for your friend. That does sound like a miricle. He still has parkies but we’re used to that. I swear that I will NEVER EVER pause a medication again without carefully and fully clearing it with his doctors. He really wants to come home, but docs are saying at least a couple more days. He isn’t eating by mouth yet and they don’t know what the mass in his throat is yet. I hope that is something that can be easily addressed. My fingers are crossed on that.
I so appreciate the support I’ve received here. I’m thankful for a lot of things today, even though I didn’t get to sweat making dinner today. Maybe we can do it next week. Thank all of you.
My kid was in a lot of pain last night. We couldn’t determine the cause but we think it was his head/ear. I would suspect an ear infection except a doctor just looked in his ears and wasn’t concerned. He was inconsolable for about an hour, at first he wouldn’t even let us touch him. My poor baby.
Tylenol knocked him out, and he’s fine today.
But I woke up with a pain in my head, and it really fucking hurts! I think it’s sinus pressure but it’s only on one side of my head, it feels vaguely like trigeminal nerve pain. It started out tolerable but after a day of this shit, I’m really frustrated. I just want my whole family to be healthy again. Me included!
I had a regular-sized rant. I started a thread about it. I learned that Amazon delivery drivers are awful and people just put up with it. I’m sick of putting up with things.
Every time I ride the El, there are people jumping the turnstyle. I pay the fair because it’s the right thing to do. We all put up with the jumpers, who are never punished. Why?
Every time I ride the El, there are people smoking marijuana. They never get so much as a scolding. We all put up with it. Why?
The world sucks and we all just seem to be putting up with it. Why?
I’ve often wondered this. Here, the logic seems to be that most people obey the rules, so it’s a waste of resources to spend time, money, and effort chasing down the scofflaws. Which, of course, I consider a reward for bad behaviour.
The other thing is that I’ve noticed a growing lack of consideration for others: fewer people seem to care whether they are being noisy in public, being aware of other pedestrians, and other basic courtesies of living in a society. If you dare speak to anyone, they respond with aggression and rage. Why are people so violent about defending their right to be jerks?
I try to mitigate this by modifying my own behaviour to deflect the worst of this, but it used to be that you didn’t have to! At least not quite so much.
Please do help him. Also, invite him and his wife over for dinner with you. My father had dementia and their very friendly neighbors starting shunning them, probably because Mom was yelling at Dad and very angry. She had depression, which often comes with being a lone caretaker of a partner. He needs some normal socializing, and grocery shopping help. Hugs to all involved.
What’s the El ? (tried googling it … i guess it’s not East London transport !)
And what’s the offense there, is smoking mj illlegal there, or is it the smoking on the El ?
