When I lived in Chicago and rode Amtrak a lot I used to share some of the rides with Amish and Mennonite travelers (one of my fondest memories was an Amish family standing next to the Sears Tower asking a punk with leather-and-chains and pink and green hair directions on how to find a place to eat downtown. Only in America)
Also, now that I am in Indiana there are Amish communities in the vicinity.
Yes, they do annoy some people. Usually, I’ve found, the same people who are annoyed at anyone who isn’t “with it” or living life exactly the way they do.
Yes, a slow-moving buggy can pose a hazard on the freeway - maybe that’s why the interstates around here have signs that SPECIFICALLY forbid “horse-drawn vehicles” from entering? You know, the buggies were on the roads first. The only place I’ve ever seen the Amish trotting along has been on rural roads and other places where, guess what, you shouldn’t be driving at breakneck speeds anyhow. I guess the same idiots who get cheesed off at my driving >gasp!< the actual speed limit would also be perturbed by horse and buggies. You know what? I’m just not in that much of a hurry, I don’t find them annoying. Hey, I’ve never been tailgated by an Amish dude flipping me the bird.
As far as technology - they don’t reject ALL technology, they’re just very choosey at what they adopt. Battery powered everything seems to be OK. Wall outlets not OK. Solar power OK. Stand-alone generators sometimes OK, sometimes not. And it’s all based on how the technology affects the community.
Medical technology is OK - but not medical insurance. So, if an Amishperson needs, say, a kidney transplant the community usually kicks in and they pay cash (!). Because, in truth, some Amish are not poor, they just look poor because of their lifestyle and manner of dress. Some are struggling financially, some are quite well off.
If an Amishperson is not working the family farm or business, in other words, is working for someone else, they are certainly permitted to learn to use any technology required for the job. So, if they’re in a factory job they may well use power tools or computers if that is part of the job. But that stays solely on the job. And they don’t really like to work at such jobs.
Car and bus rides are permitted, provided the Amish are not the operators of the vehicles. Trains are OK for long distance travel. Airplanes are not OK, except in dire emergencies, like emergency travel to medical treatment. Cruise ships are OK - periodically Amish groups will take trips to Europe or the Holy Land or other locales via a cruise ship.
Last I heard, about 20-25% of the Amish children do not join the church when they grow up. They might move to a Mennonite farming community (where they’re skills would be useful) or set up stores making things like “Amish furniture”, but some have, in fact, moved on to advanced education. One of the psychology professors at the University of Chicago was from an Amish family, and was a man with multiple PhD’s. Because he never joined the church but left before being baptized he was still on good terms with the folks back home (after an initial couple of years of shouting and adjustments). The Amish aren’t always happy about the kids who don’t join, but voluntary committment to the faith is extremely important, so they do expect this to happen from time to time. So, while departure followed by higher education is rare it is not unheard of and certainly possible. Say what you want about the Amish teaching practices, they’re kids DO have a solid foundation in reading, writing, and arithematic which is the basis on which all higher education rests. And that’s more than you can say for the average public high brat.
As far as the idyllic protrayal of them - that annoys the crap out of me. They are, after all, human beings. They have their share of drunks, suicides, theives, murderers, and other assorted flavors of bad people, at about the same rate as the rest of the population. Why this surprises anyone I don’t know.
Fact is, any Amish person is free to leave the Amish community at any time. Would it be difficult? Sure. And it’s been darn difficult for the occassional person who joined their community, too. Life in general can be difficult, regardless of what you believe or who you are.