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Ok, let’s apply that definition to debates on this board. Der Trihs in the “God as Parent” thread claims that all people until quite recently and almost all people alive today were/are unhappy all the time. Thus, by your reasoning, virtually anyone who ever was happy was “attacking” Ter Trihs, and most people still are.
Or consider a recent thread by Stoid asserting that no one can control their own sexual desires. By your definition, anyone who does control their sexual desires is “attacking” Stoid. Indeed, as I argued in that thread, everyone controls their sexual desires at least somewhat, so Stoid is apparently attacking himself. (DerTrihs, on the other hand, appears to obey his own command to be permanently unhappy, even if no one else does.)
The real problem here is that you’re not arguing against me. Your arguing against the English language, every dictionary, and everyone who speaks it. You cannot “attack” someone by thinking thoughts about them. Attacking is an action taken.
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What are you talking about? First of all, if someone is only thinking that someone else is wrong, no one knows it and it could hardly be considered an attack. The only thing up for consideration here are posts, or speech, or writing of other sorts, all of which involve actions.
Second, I strongly suspect that both your examples are provisional. I even tweaked DerTrihs about his, and I don’t think he considered it an attack; his response wasn’t at all defensive. I haven’t read the Stoids thread. Hyperbole isn’t the same as absolutism.
A provisional statement doesn’t have to include tons of weasel words. All we need is for the speaker, when questioned, to admit he might be wrong. Often this only happens in a meta-discussion of the issue. When I was doing debating, I learned that you don’t cede points to your opponents, even if you might think they are right. Debaters learn to debate sides they disagree with, after all.
Now sometimes an attack is really an attack, and not just a disagreement. But not all disagreements are attacks, and polite disagreements are only considered an attack by those who hold absolute positions. Bitching about the president of the US, of whichever party, is not as dangerous as bitching about someone with absolute correctness on his side - eg Communist bans on dissent and blasphemy laws.