The circumcision thread: restored

Jack

I have a news flash for you. Foreplay causes erotic sensations. That’s kind of the point. If that’s not consistent with your experience, it’s obvious that you’re doing it wrong. If you think stimulation of the “traditional” erogenous zones is all that can get somebody going, I pity any woman or man you’ve ever been involved with.

A suggestion for you: watch “Monty Python’s Meaning of Life” for a good lesson - diving straight for the clit is not what it’s all about. Oh, I forgot, you don’t actually dive. Poking at the clit is not what it’s all about.

Opal says:

I find it bloody scary that JDT might succeed in making people believe that uncircumzised men dislike - eh - creative sex practices, or that their partners seem to be passive.

It can’t be said emphatically enough: Would everyone (especially the ladies, obviously) please disregard Jack Dean Tylers obviously uninformed opinions on how “intact” men have sex ?

I, like almost all men in my country, am “intact” - and Jack, a free tip: Skipping foreplay is not how you win favour with the charming Danish ladies. And though my statistical sample is admittedly rather (some would say pitifully) small, I can’t say I’ve noticed any lack of noise & movement on my partners’ behalf. Ehm - sorry if this last comes across as bragging. :wink:

Hitting submit before I can regret posting this…

S. Norman

Acksiom,

You asked me to respond to the question about the expansion of the Female Genital Mutilation law to male children. In the post you referred to, you quoted the statute, and asked the following question:

The main operative section of the statute provides: “whoever knowingly circumcises, excises, or infibulates the whole or any part of the labia majora or labia minora or clitoris of another person who has not attained the age of 18 years shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 5 years, or both.”

I believe that the principles behind this legislation should be extended to male minors. I believe it should be equally criminal to circumcise, excise or infibulate the labia majora or minora or clitoris of a male minor, just as it is to do so for a female minor.

Somewhat less facetiously, the principles behind the legislation are intimately tied in with the biology. The male and female sexual organs are different (and viva la difference). As a result, “surgery” on those organs will have different effects on sexuality.

Whatever the effect of male circumcision, it is clear that both uncircumcised and circumcised men can have full, satisfying sexual lives. I cannot discuss the scientific research (or absence thereof) detailing the precise difference between sexual response between circumcised and uncircumcised men. However, it is clear from the empirical research conducted by people who have had sex with men of both types that there isn’t much difference as a whole in the sexuality of the men of each type.

On the other hand, it is equally clear that infibulation and similar female sexual surgery significantly reduces the sexual response of those who have had it. Indeed, the primary purpose of such surgery appears to be to diminish female sexual response. I have heard no claims that such surgery has little or no effect.

So, the difference in biology causes the difference in principle. Although anti-circumcision advocates may argue vehemently that circumcision impairs male sexual response, the evidence is, at best, disputed. On the other hand, the female genital surgery prohibited by the FGM statute undisputedly diminishes female sexual response. Accordingly, it is appropriate to prohibit FGM, but not male circumcision.

Should there be a broad consensus of scientific research indicating that male circumcision similarly impairs male sexual response, it would be time to consider whether male circumcision should be prohibited. However, considering the millennia-old experience with male circumcision, it is unlikely that a significant impairment will be found. In contrast, both the study of female sexuality and the awareness of the practice of FGM are relatively recent, and the results of the study of the practice are unequivocal.

I understand why anti-circumcision advocates compare the practices, but broad evidence that the results of the practices are similar is just not there. (I will not be drawn into a discussion about the specifics of the research, but simply reiterate that a broad consensus of harm is not there). Moreover, I believe that for some of the most vehement advocates against circumcision, the fixation on the effects of circumcision masks deeper problems with their own sexuality.

Therefore, because the biology of males and females is different, I believe the “principles” of the FGM law should not extend to male circumcision.

Bill

[P.S. I am sorry to see that you were banned, Acksiom. You were a rational advocate for the anti-circumcision side, though you were tripped up by your tendency (which we all fight) to make personal attacks here in Great Debates. This board has a forum, The BBQ Pit, where such personal statements (within reason) are permitted, and there are several related threads there in which it would be appropriate to voice your opinions about other posters (though without rising to the level of direct personal insult).

There have been some other posters who have been initially banned and then, upon a sincere promise to follow the rules, have been allowed to return to the boards. I would suggest that you wait several days and then e-mail Gaudere and David B (and TubaDiva as well) explaining that you understand that you transgressed board rules, describing your understanding of the rules and pledging that you will follow them thereafter. Then they may (and I stress may) allow you to return.

One other thing that I caution you about is that you should under no circumstances sign up with another screen name and begin posting (unless specifically permitted to do so by board administration). The no multiple user names rule is one that the board takes very seriously.

In any event, I enjoyed your posts and think they added to the discussion. Good luck.]

Don’t worry, Spiny Norman. We don’t believe JDT.

porcupine,

>I have a news flash for you. Foreplay causes erotic sensations. That’s kind of the point. If that’s not consistent with your experience, it’s obvious that you’re doing it wrong. If you think stimulation of the “traditional” erogenous zones is all that can get somebody going, I pity any woman or man you’ve ever been involved with. <

I know. I know. "The brain is the most erogenous organ." "Anything that you say 100 times to yourself is true."

Spiny Norman,

> I find it bloody scary that JDT might succeed in making people believe that uncircumcised men dislike - eh - creative sex practices, or that their partners seem to be passive. <

This is misrepresenting what I said. In any event, studies have shown that "creative sex practices" are less common with intact men.
Since you find what I am saying so "bloody scary," perhaps you would be so kind as to instruct us in what you think is proper during sex. Do you use your penis to manipulate the woman's clitoris in any way?

> It can’t be said emphatically enough: Would everyone (especially the ladies, obviously) please disregard Jack Dean Tyler’s obviously uninformed opinions on how “intact” men have sex ? <

I've already made the point that not all intact men know how to use their penises. Many people are very interested, so why don't you help us to understand exactly how you use your penis during sex? I know that in your country, sex isn't a dirty thing to talk about like it is in America. So, why don't you give us some of your experiences? Is there a wet spot after you have had sex? Do you even know what a wet spot is?

> I, like almost all men in my country, am “intact” - and Jack, a free tip: Skipping foreplay is not how you win favour with the charming Danish ladies. <

How do you engage in foreplay? We don't know who you are, so answer, please?
    Also, would you ever consider having a circumcision?

** Jack**, don’t presume to ask others for their personal experiences and background when you won’t.

Opal, a little while ago a group of us girls were talking, and we agreed that our nipples were definitely more of a turn-on for guys than they were for us. Althogh not to the same extent, you’re not alone =>

Oh, and one more thing. Jack, there is nothing that bothers me more than other people assuming they know someone’s body better than they do themselves. Caffeine makes me sleepy. Okay, fine. DO NOT TELL ME THAT ISN’T TRUE! Anyone here who has made an assertion about their body being different from the norm: THEY KNOW BETTER THAN YOU. Ok?

LaurAnge,

> Jack, don’t presume to ask others for their personal experiences and background when you won’t. <

I don't have to give you my personal experiences. I'm a researcher. And, this "Spiny Norman" person is offering anyway.

> Opal, a little while ago a group of us girls were talking, and we agreed that our nipples were definitely more of a turn-on for guys than they were for us. Although not to the same extent, you’re not alone => <

Yes, I know, later on Opal brought up that maybe her areolas were sensitive. Frankly, I don't know about how the areolas compare to the nipples as far as sensitivity. I assumed that Opal was saying that she got no eroticism from her breasts and that's how the whole thing got started. I wouldn't be a bit surprised if a woman's nipples had no sensitivity at all. If a man puts as much of the woman's breast in his mouth and gives them a full power suck and simultaneously then flickers the nipples back and forth with his tongue, then the nipples get pushed deep within the woman's breast and that has some major erotic effect.

Eeeeeeeeeeeeew! It would not!

Jack, dear, I don’t know from whom you’re getting your feedback, but I think you’ve been lied to.

I happen to have sensitive enough breasts that I am capable of what Cecil refers to a “psychic orgasms,” in this article on the topic. (In fact, I was one of the survey participants.) However, I can assure you, anyone who’s ever tried “power sucking” my breasts got met with a smack in the head to get them to stop.

But just to be sure, and in the interest of scientific study, I posted a survey regarding your technique here, in IMHO. I’m anxious to see what the results will be.

[QUOTEWhat would you prefer, 35 minutes of foreplay and 5 minutes of erotic sensations or 40 minutes of erotic sensations? [/QUOTE]

First off, foreplay IS erotic sensation. In fact, it’s more of an erotic sensation than intercourse.

Second, why do you think my husband only lasts 5 minutes? I prefer 35 minutes of foreplay and 20 minutes of intercourse or so. He can easily go longer but I can’t. Btw I once had 4 straight hours of intercourse (which I don’t recommend to anyone) with a circumcised man. Put that in yer pipe and smoke it.

I’d have to say that after reading some 15 pages of your discussions of sex… obviously you are the one doing it wrong. Your experience goes against 99% of everyone else’s here… and “your way” sounds completely unappealing to 99% of the people here… pretty much boils down to … you’re a lousy lay and you’re trying to justify it.

[QUOTEYes, I know, later on Opal brought up that maybe her areolas were sensitive. [/QUOTE]

NO I DIDN’T! Geesh. My nipples and areola are completely numb and always have been.

Eh… more like… the woman feels since the guy is trying os hard, she’ll fake something to make him feel good about himself. Ladies? Any of you find what JDT just said to be some superior sex move?

Oh, yeah - insulting everyone is going to totally help your cause. :rolleyes: I’m thoroughly unimpressed with your bigoted, ignorant comments. (I might also add a thanks to David B for deleting your gratuitous insults before I had a chance to read them - saved me the headache of reading your tripe.)

Congratulations for being a fan of Cecil’s for so long. (Pity it hasn’t done you any good.) Regardless of how you found yourself here, it does seems more than a bit of a coincidence that you should show up and start your tenure here at the SDMB posting in a thread that you seem as adamant about as our dear, beloved JDT. There certainly wouldn’t have been anything wrong with him mentioning this to others to help him in his cause. Too bad at this point I see you as only a hinderance, based on your harsh overreaction to such an innocuous observation.

Got quite a bit of “'tude” there yourself. Might want to keep it in check in Great Debates - we’d hate to see you banned…

Esprix

I would think this is highly probable in JDT’s case. He’s already said that he doesn’t think the man should listen to the woman’s suggestions in bed. So faking it is probably the only way to get him to stop doing something unpleasant.

Porcupine, I love you! Care to get together and enjoy some of that stupid, inadiquate, non intact sex that JDT condems? I promise you, I will take your writhing and moaning as a sign that you don’t know any better and I don’t know what I’m doing.

:smiley: :wink: :smiley:

Jack:

Sorry 'bout the misunderstanding - what I find bloody scary aren’t your suggested intercourse techniques (Hey, whatever works for you), but that people (well, women) might start believing that intact men are less fun, thus reducing my chances of getting a bit of nooky.

What I think is “proper” during lovemaking ? Whatever you & your partner considers fun. And I know firsthand that different things work for different people. As for the rest of your questions, sorry, but I’m not going to discuss that. Hey, I know some of these people IRL, okay ?

Circumcision: I’ve never had to consider it and I wouldn’t want one. Sounds uncomfortable to me.

S. Norman

I think the main argument against circumsicion is that a foreskin is supposed to be there. Nature put it there, so just leave it alone.

This from the same man who said earlier that it is impossible to prove that ANY action (including murder, rape or theft) is bad.

Then why did more than half the voters vote for Gore in the Popular Vote? He is arguably more intelligent, but less charming than Bush. (Now, if you were to argue this is why Nader lost, you may have a point.)

**Must fight temptation to agree… Must fight… Must fight… AHHHHHGGGG!!! He’s right, he’s right, so help me Cecil!

Which one are you? Or are you the automaton fool? Or the charming genius?

What? Are you just being insulting to him 'cause, if not, I’d like to hear how this means anything.

I feel it is now necessary to quote the source to end all sources. I refer, of course, to Mr. Cecil Adams:

http://www.straightdope.com/columns/000505.html

Now, Jack, do you really want to keep fighting this battle?

You’re just plain wrong. Face it. I said this earlier, but you didn’t respond: I once brought a woman to orgasm just by kissing her. Both of us were fully clothed at the time, and our hands weren’t involved in the stimulation.

Haven’t you ever gotten an erection from looking at an erotic picture, or reading an erotic story? Buy a “Penthouse,” Jack, if you’re heterosexual, or “Playgirl” if you’re homosexual. Look at the pictures. If you don’t get the slightest bit turned on, you’re not human, or not male. Now, did you have to stimulate yourself to achieve that?

Speaking for myself, the main reason I enjoy sex is not because I get physically stimulated or achieve orgasm. I can do those by myself–my right hand is perfectly good at that. What I really love is to make my lover feel good–to give her the most pleasure I can, to watch her erotic sensations rise and explode. Giving pleasure to my lover is erotic for me. It makes me feel good, and there’s no other way to achieve it. Do I enjoy the physical stimulation? Sure, and I love the fact that my lover enjoys giving it to me. But it’s the partnership that makes really, really good, mindblowing sex possible.

The fact that you obviously don’t know that is truly sad. My sincerest condolences to you and to any sexual partners you may have in your life. Before you try to tell me that I’m wrong, think about this: You tried to tell me I couldn’t possibly know what I was missing because I haven’t had a foreskin since I was a few days old. I acknoweledged that that was possible. Now, I’m telling you that, until you’ve tried sex as a partnership effort, you can’t possibly know what you’re missing.

You know I’m right. Give up.

-Matt

BunnyGirl,

> What? Are you just being insulting to him 'cause, if not, I’d like to hear how this means anything. <

There's no wet spot when you have sex with an intact guy. So, I would imagine that there are a lot of intact guys that don't know what a wet spot is.