My family is heavily involved with ANFAS. The current name is more PC, but originally it meant “Navarrese association of families and friends of downies”.
Navarra is the only Spanish province where Down kids still get born more than once every two years (Navarra, population 1M, one or two Downies/year; Catalonia, pop 6M, one Downie every three years). Most of the ones I know well are adults, though, simply because I know a lot more adult people than kids. Asturias used to have the highest amount of Downies in the country: not a single one has been born since one year after abortion became legal.
The Downies I know include:
two downies who got married way before anybody thought it was nobody’s business to intrude whenever two unmarried, different-gender people wanted to get married to each other. Their two children. The whole family is prone to violence and tantrums. The mother has recently retired from the ANFAS-owned printing company; the father and the two “kids” work there.
A downie, male, who is #9 of 10 kids. Sweet guy, I’ve known him for something like 30 years and the only times I’ve seen him get angry are when he can’t come up with the right words. The other siblings are all normal. It’s a great family, very united.
A downie, male, who is a local celeb with the church. He loves music, specially Christmas carols because he gets to play the zambomba (a particularly noisy instrument). During the Christmas season he’ll go to every single mass in the parish, because there’s carols in all of them. He loves the kids; the kids love him.
A downie, female, who is a lawyer. Euh? Yeah, a lawyer. What, you never heard the word lawyer before? Laaaaaaw-yer. In Spain, law school isn’t grad school, you don’t have to take a major and then law; law is directly your major. She graduated high school at 19 (not with her age group, but better than many normals I know) and then got her law degree through the UNED (long distance public university). She chose the UNED over presential classes because she was tired of being a poster child: she doesn’t mind being one most of the time but the UNED meant that she’d get graded by people who had never seen her and who would measure her against the same standards as every other students. So, both other people and herself know that she didn’t get it any easier for being a Downie. She works for ANFAS, mostly helping other associates (they’re not only Downies any more) with things like renting an apartment, signing up for courses, opening and managing bank accounts, getting emancipated, etc. The first time she went to a meeting, she almost had to close the “normal” banker’s mouths by hand - nowadays everybody knows her, of course. Her family and mine used to live in the same building; her eldest sister was two years older than me (died from being given an aspirin just after giving birth), second is one year older than me, third my age, then this one who is three years younger than me, and right after her the boy. Her Mom likes to say that “in this household we’d be able to estimulate a freaking brick, and she had a good brain to start.”
They have medical problems, true. So does my mother.
They often have impulse-control problems, true. So does every kid.
This last one is exceptional, true. But to me, she kind of turns the whole thing into a case of… “if a man had syphilis, and he’d given it to his wife, and they already had 9 kids, some of which had been born blind… would you abort the next one?” I’m sure I don’t have the question exactly right, but I’m sure y’all have heard it before. If anybody hasn’t, the kid in question did not get aborted, he got completely deaf when he was old and his firstname was Ludwig. Well, in this case, her name is Elena.
Abortion rights don’t exist “to eliminate uncomfortable people”, but that’s some times the end result. Heck, every woman who aborts because the pregnancy was unplanned is getting rid of an uncomfortable person… just it’s uncomfortable by reason of timing and not of genetics. I have been in the situation of having company-ordained medical insurance which covered no gyne procedure except abortions. That doesn’t lead to people not having sex… it leads to abortions.