Pfft. It’s a GAME. Half (or more) of the fun is playing in a way totally unlike the way you’d be in real life.
I’d never be a murderous, thieving pirate in real life, but it’s damn fun to play one online.
People who get mad when People Play The Game Wrong have missed the entire point- there really isn’t a Correct Way to Play the Game, just the way they think it ought to be played.
For example:
I played Ultima Online back around the initial release- not right out of the gate, but maybe Spring 1998.
My friends and I tried playing it straight- we had dumb characters like tailors, etc… who were horribly boring to play. We tried adventurer sorts, but without any monsters to kill, that was boring as heck too.
What we ended up on was as highwaymen. Not just random a-hole pk’ers or griefers (although we were called those things), but honest-to-god highway robbers. We’d got clothing that was more or less camouflage, and trained up our stealth skill (or whatever it was called), and what we’d do was lurk near well traveled roads, pop out, demand the cash, and then based on what the victim did, let them go with a lighter wallet, or slay them mercilessly if they didn’t.
Somehow, despite trying to play characters with evil alignment and not being random PKers or griefers, many people pitched an absolute shit fit because they didn’t like the idea that we’d kill their characters if they didn’t pay up.
Nobody’s characters are sacrosanct; our first set of highwaymen eventually got caught when a big posse got organized and finally hunted us down. We thought that was grand fun, actually.
Too many people get way too invested in their characters and games; if you’re not willing to have that risk in a game, don’t play it.
It’s like bitching about getting pk’ed in null sec space in EVE… you pays your money, you takes your chances, you know.
And Zerial has it exactly right- there’s no place for in-game memorials and stuff like that in most MMORPGS, and if you do them, you shouldn’t expect pity or quarter from anyone. At the very least, there should have been pickets to sound the alarm or something, but they totally dropped the ball, and paid the price.