Good god, that’s atrocious (and runs contrary to what I have seen from their leader’s writings and speeches, and what I know through a friendship with their other MP and through a few years of board work with another one of their candidates). Thanks, foolsguinea, for posting it. Such are the problems of bootstrapping a political party. They won’t develop as a party if they don’t pay closer attention to whom they are running for candidates, and to what they put out before the public as being party policy. I’m glad they moved on it quickly, for there is none of that crap what so ever in their platform as it is presently published on the net. Their lack of a well established structure is weighing them down. I hope they learn their lesson from this and don’t repeat it.
The vast majority of parents put their kids first and do not need to go to court unless they want a divorce, which is only a matter of filling out a few forms for a judge to rubber stamp. Nor is there a problem in the courts for a parent who isn’t interested in raising his or her kids, provided that appropriate child support is paid to the person who is raising those kids.
The big problem arises when each party believes that he or she and not the other party knows what’s best for the kids, but one of them simply doesn’t know what’s best for the kids, or they are unable to work together despite both knowing what’s best for the kids. The existing Divorce Act is somewhat effective at dealing with the former (just get interim custody and guidelines child support at the git go, and stay the course while the case drags out, which while getting to the right final court order is still emotionally and financially devastating on the family), but not so good at dealing with the latter, for without recourse to a whole bunch of stuff to help sort things out, court becomes a bit of a meat-grinding groundhog day, with the same parents fighting over the same issues over and over and over and over and over and over . . . while the kids grow up as the fodder while the wheels of justice slowly grind.
What do I mean by a whole bunch of stuff to sort things out? I mean extra-judicial tools that can be used to deal with the matters directly or can be used to help the judges make better decisions. In family matters, judges are faced with evidence that most of the time is just “he said, she said” with sweet bugger all to indicate what the actual truth is. Something that has been tremendously helpful in Ontario under Ontario law (we almost always run a parallel custody claim under Ontario law when we run a custody claim under Federal divorce law) is the use of a neutral clinical investigator (usually a senior children’s social worker, but I’ve also seen BC use a child psychologist) sometimes working in conjunction with a lawyer representing the kids. The clinical investigator looks into the family in depth and drafts an expert report that is filed with the court. Usually this is enough for the parties to help the parties start seeing things a bit more clearly, such that they can settle the matter, and when it is not enough to result in a settlement, the clinical investigator’s report is used as an expert’s report by the court at trial, giving the judge a great deal more insight into both the underlying facts and the parenting options reasonably available than if the judge were limited just to “he said, she said.” Then to shorten the duration of litigation and to reduce the frequency of repeat customers, resources need to be made available for ongoing counselling and mediation of issues that crop up. To put it another way, when parents find themselves in court fighting over custody, there is most likely something psychologically out of whack with one or the other or both of them, and the social work/psychology/psychiatry fields are far better at sorting it out and getting the separated family moving forward than a judge who for the most part is limited to smacking down one or the other or both of the parents. By putting a whole bunch of stuff such as this in place, parties are better able to deal with their issues and either avoid court in the first place or settle the matter earlier on during litigation, and the judge will be in a far better position to make good decisions due to being far better informed of the underlying facts and far better advised of the possible outcomes.
Think of it this way. When someone is mentally ill, who is going to do a better job at helping them move on through life? A skilled social worker/psychologist/psychiatrist, or a judge? My guess is that it’s probably not the judge. Well here’s the thing about family litigation: usually one parent or the other both are mentally unbalanced to some degree to the point that it is buggering up the ability of the parties to make sound parenting decisions. So who is going to do a better job at helping them move through life with respect to parenting? A judge? Well, if your only tool is a hammer, then the only solution will be to use the hammer. When it comes to kids and the judicial system, I’d prefer if we try to limit as far as practicable the use of the judicial hammer, particularly since kids get often get crushed during litigation.
Here are half a dozen very common examples of what ends up being litigated. 1. A young mother believes that she is by far the only person who can parent the child because that child is hers, so she moves heaven and earth to prevent the father from being involved in the child’s life. 2. Parents share parenting with one of them having the kids a bit over 40% of the time and the other having the kids a bit under 40% of the time, with both having almost the same expenses relating to the kids (housing, transportation, food, clothing, etc.), such that the one with just over 40% must pay full blown child support to the other and the one just under 40% not having to pay any child support to the former, despite it being in the best interest of the kids to be equally provided for at both homes. 3. A father thinks he knows best when it comes to parenting despite his only being a play dad or an actual bad dad, so when he doesn’t get his way, he takes it out on the mother by withholding child support and running the matter back into court. 4. One of the parents is physically or emotionally abusive to the other parent, or both are physically or emotionally abusive to each other, with the kids living and learning in such an environment and being pawns in the power games being waged by one or both parents. 6. Either or both of the parents have psychological, alcohol or drug problems that result in a chaotic life that frustrates effective post separation parenting, and frustrates the court process. (This is why Turkey season, from Canadian Thanksgiving to Christmas, is the busiest time for family law litigators, for that’s when dysfunctional parents metaphorically fight over who gets the bigger part of the wishbone, only it is the kids who get torn apart in the simple disputes that start over who has the kids for a holiday dinner on what day and then spirals out of control into all out wars including police calls, child protection involvement and emergency motions at court – there’s nothing like traditional family occasions to bring out the very worst in unstable parents.) These examples, along with a huge self-represented litigant problem, are truly reflective of what is clogging up our courts (and yes, family matters are the brunt of the court system), and each and every one of them (including the self-represented litigant problem) is usually better handled when appropriate extra-judicial tools are used.
Think of it this way. Most judges are very smart, very hard working, very experienced at the law, and deeply care about making the best decisions possible in the best interests of the children, but their hands are tied behind their backs (a) when they are required to make decisions based on “he said, she said” evidence that may or may not be true to a greater or lesser degree (a.k.a. garbage in, garbage out), and (b) when the statute law requires a cookie cutter, one-size fits all, approach even if it is not what would be best in a particular case. Revising the Divorce Act, including putting in place extra-judicial tools, will help judges make better decisions, will reduce the duration of the cases they handle, and will divert matters that otherwise would end up in court.
Keep in mind that in family law, no one wins in court – one side or the other may not lose as much, but everyone loses, so resolving issues without going to court, and getting faster and more nuanced decisions at court are important on-going goals in family law. Revising the Divorce Act is part of getting there.