The perils of new home ownership

Picture it. Saturday. It was a beautiful day out. No clouds, light breeze, the sun was shining. I had no commitments for the day. Pretty much a day to do whatever I pleased. Some of my choices?

  • New satellite dish. I had about 10 baseball games and 30 movies to choose from. I could just sit on my butt all day, relax, and watch TV.
  • Just got the basketball goal set up. I could christen it by shooting hoops for a few hours and relax.
  • New puppy. I could play with her all day (she loves the tummy rub.)
  • The family lives nearby. We could all get together and play cards and have a fun time.

But, then I look out the front window and notice that our yard has a decent amount of weeds. So, my plans for the day boil down to me crawling through the yard on my hands and knees picking weeds out of the ground underneath the boiling sun. What in the world has happened to me?

You need my husbands philosophy- screw it. He doesn’t weed, mow, clean, hang stuff up, paint- nothing. He rides his motorcycle or plays his guitar all weekend long. In the winter we veg out and watch football. We play games, hang out in the pool, drink on the deck- anything but chores. When it gets awful, we do some emergency quick chores, but generally speaking, we don’t.

Sure, our place looks like Sanford and Son, but we do enjoy life. We keep saying we should get a grown-up to live with us so someone makes us do some chores done once in a while.

Zette

Guess I’m lucky in that regard. This house has some massive oak trees over the yard, so big and thick that there is no grass. Some strange green ground cover, but that’s it. Cool not to have to mow.

Raking, however… Ugh.

My wife and I just traded our nice little postage stamp sized lot with 3 oak trees and 12 sweet gum trees for 2 manicured acres with 6 oak trees, 6 sweet gum, pines too numerous to mention, figs, pears, citrus, magnolias, japanese magnolia, and literally hundreds of flowering plants.

What the hell was I thinking???

Muller/Zette: Have either of you considered some kind of artificial turf? I’ve always thought that would be cool, even though I’ve never seen it done. Some of the new turf looks real.

Seriously.

Quit looking at me like that.

Or, get some kid down the street to take care of the lawn for you. They usually need the money, and they’re cheap. Just a couple of ideas.

We bought our first home in Jan '99, a cute little bungalow on a smallish lot. It’s 30 years old but in good repair and well maintained by the previous owners. Due to the time of year when we bought, we could not appreciate the poor quality of the lawn area, and it has degraded further much to the chagrin of our neighbours.

We spent a lot of money the first year simply trying to aquire the tools and goods needed to run a home effectively. Our problem is that we didn’t want to buy some cheapo crap that will last 2 seasons and be broken down, so we got the really expensive crap that’ll break down in 3. Lawnmower, hedge trimmer, garden shears, extension cords, fertilizer thingy, hose, hose cart, garden shovels, wheelbarrow, step ladder, outdoor christmas lights, road salt, snow shovels, plus all the inside stuff that you need to get moving from a 1BR apartment to a 3BR house.

Over the last year and a half, I have seen a hawk successfully prey upon a pigeon in our yard, seen evidence of 3 birds being preyed upon (apparently the hawk doesn’t like wings), 6 birds striking our windows, a squirrel carcass under our deck, and a rat dead at the bottom of our garden.

We also have a strange semi-transient localized odour that appears at irregular intervals, but mostly in the evening, and mostly around the front door. It’s like a fishy-rubbery smell…kinda like the inside of an innertube?

Fall '99 we discover a patch of water spread across the carpet in the finished basement (enough to splash when you step in it). We plugged a 1" diameter hole through the foundation (looks like it was drilled there to pass a cable through). We cleaned that up in a few days.

April 23 '00 we inherit a 26 year old pregnant single verge-of-bankruptcy sister-in-law and her 2 cats to ‘help her out’. We set her up in the finished basement, and tell her she’s paying rent.

May 1 '00 the cats are peeing on our stuff…including our new leather chairs (got them March 24)

May 12 '00 big thunder storm for hours, power goes out and the sump pump can’t empty the rising water. We get 3" of water covering 1600Sq.ft of basement. This gets both our stuff and hers. We try to clean it up ourselves to prevent the hassle of going through insurance. We were bailing when it happened at 10PM, and were still cleaning at 3AM (just to get the thick out). The two of us were each shocked once during the evening (her-ground fault, me-lightning strike).

May 14 '00 the 2 of us are out of town for 4 days on business. We leave instructions to keep the basement windows open to air it out.

May 18 '00 we get home and discover the stench of old-water-logged carpet and furniture.
“It really smells here” the sister says.
“Did you keep the windows open?”
“No, I didn’t want to go downstairs. One of the cats is in a box (dead) in the root cellar”.
Turns out, the cats had been walking around in the soaked carpet downstairs where the litter box was (with clumping cat litter) and they were getting clumps on their feet. I’m guessing that he was trying to clean himself. She had put him in a box and left him there and waited for us (for a day and a half) because she didn’t know what to do with him.

May 19 '00 I take the body to be cremated, then we drive for 8 hours to their parents house for the weekend (which means our house is now locked up tight). We leave her and the cat there.

May 22 '00 we get home and are overpowered by the smell…we call the insurance company to gut the basement.

May 27 '00 we spend the weekend (14 hours each day) moving the sister out of the basement (we just moved her in one month earlier) and into our space. Our guest room is now being used.

July 1 '00 We start drywalling the basement because the insurance company doesn’t want to replace the paneling that was there. We are interupted by the leaking ceiling in the basement bathroom (directly below the main bath). I get covered with toilet water and soiled wet drywall as I investigate the source. I spend 2 days aquiring tools and parts to to repair a toilet wax ring, shut-off valve, toilet flush mechanisms. After 3 days, we have only 5 sheets of drywall on the walls.

July 23 '00 I can hear water dripping on a windowsill on a rainy Sunday. It sounds like it’s outside, but it turns out to be splashing on the inside. As I check out the roof, I have to go to a neighbours yard to see the shingles that have rotted (bird poo) and exposing the roof sheathing. This is the only part of the roof that we couldn’t see during the inspection. I’ve put plastic over the area temporarily.

August 1 '00 we call the insurance contractor to arrange for the carpet guy to come in. We want to have it installed by Aug 25.

August 10 '00 we get our first payment from the sister…it’s half of one months rent. She has a job, as well as getting money from at least three sources who feel sorry for her staying with use(!). She doesn’t buy groceries, but buys CDs, gas and her $400 CRV lease.

August 17 '00 we finally hear from a NEW carpet guy (who’s NOT trying to rip us off this time). He says it’ll take 3 weeks.

August 18 '00 we discover evidence that the sisters current/ex-boyfriend (who is ‘known’ to the police) was at our place (2 sets of dishes in the sink) while we were at work. We told her he was not allowed at our place EVER! This was later confirmed (unwittingly) by a phone call from him. We start looking at changing our locks.

August 21 '00 we finish painting the basement

the saga continues…

Since I just signed a contract to buy my first house yesterday, I fervently hope this is not the type of story I am stepping into! Sheesh. Seems to me you could get rid of Sister-in-law, her criminal beau, and the house with a carefully arranged “gas leak” and a lit match. By a new house with the insurance payments and start all over again.

You must be joking. I own 13 acres and mow about 3. That’s a lot of Astroturf!! Seriously, though. I’m planting a lot of decorative ground cover on parts we don’t really use- (hills and such) in an effort to cut down on mowing problems. I personally love long, tall grass but my husband won’t let me keep it knee high!

Zette

Zette, You live on 13 acres and love long tall grass?

: Now if I can just figure out how to get Mrs. Southern and Mr. Zette together… :

That’s a heck of a story cantara. You’ve managed to mix all of the negatives of home ownership, deadbeat inlaws, and the failed criminal justice system. If you’ll tell the deadbeat that she’s got 3 days to find her own accomodations most of these problems will seem manageable AND you’ll preserve your sanity.

Good Luck,

We’re holding up okay for now. We just take it as it comes and deal with the crisis of the moment. Actually, we’re still living as though everything were ‘normal’ and all of this is just as mundane as cutting the grass or washing the windows (jeez, we gotta do that too…hmm). Truth is, we wanted to redo the basement anyway, and this was a good kick in the pants, plus we get someone else to pay for a lot of it.

I shouldn’t make TOO big a deal about the guy, as far as I know he has never been convicted or even charged with anything, but merely (!) a suspect in a number of incidents.

Mully:

Watch TV? Shoot hoops? Play with your puppy?

Hey, don’t you need a new tank of propane for the gas grill? If you use charcoal, you sure you got enough? Those roses could use some deadheading, if you expect to have another set of blooms before the first frost. And if you don’t get those morning glories out of the borders, they’re going to take over EVERYTHING. Really, you let 'em go for a week, and you’ll never catch up. I think I see some brown-spotting on the hydrangea, and the potato bugs have been at the perennials. Better get the fungus spray AND the bug spray. When was the last time anyone did a load of wash? And what do you expect to have for dinner tonight? Better get over to the butcher shop, the greengrocer, and the coffee store (you’re almost out of the Columbian roast, and you could use another half-pound of orange pekoe). Is the farmer’s market still open? You really SHOULD have gone this morning, the best veggies are probably gone already. But wouldn’t it be nice to have some nice ripe tomatoes for the salad tonight? And the sweet corn season’s almost over; better pick up a half dozen ears. Let’s see…dinner…how about a nice grilled pork tenderloin? Stop at the butcher on the way back from the farmer’s market…you DO have dried ancho chiles, don’t you? None of that crappy commercial chili powder, just anchos. You can mix it with some brown sugar, a little cumin, some coriander, black and red pepper. Rub it into the meat about an hour before the grill’s ready. How old is this jar of cayenne? It’s BROWN, man. Better pick up a fresh bottle…Hey, time to change loads on the laundry…

Huh. I didn’t even have to stop to think as I typed the preceding. That’s what MY weekends look like (except I’m also charged with the care of two entertainment-hungry children).