I was discussing abortion issues with a very good friend this evening, and she was ranting about the latest ‘assault on abortion rights’, something about a fetus in utero being granted “personhood” in cases of violent assault on the mother (I have to get all the details, i believe a thread is going about it, I’ll have to check it out.)
She was, as she is wont to do, getting very upset at the prospect that “they” (hard core pro-life) would use this as a wedge, etc.
Her fear of course was the slippery slope… first they grant the fetus personhood in THIS instance, the next thing you know, we’re all at backalley butchers, or at the very least, the poor are at butchers.
Now, I am not a “pro-lifer”, by any stretch. But my friend and I have disagreed before about when a fetus has passed a point where destroying it is repugnant. For me, that point is around 5 months. More only if mother’s health is at stake. (I’ve said this before on these boards, this still isn’t the point I’m trying to make.)
My friend, who believes absolutely in the right of a woman to have an abortion right up to and including the moments before she actually goes into labor, simply as a hedge against the slippery slope, will never grant that compromise is possible. All roads lead to choiceless hell in her mind. And she MAY be right…it’s still not my point yet. (I’m working on it, hold tight… I’m getting closer!)
I pointed out to her that if she was going to cling to the position that no compromise can be allowed, lest all rights end up taken away, then she has to see the flip side of this: her argument against any modification of abortion law is essentially the identical argument made by the NRA against any further regulation of guns. First you make us wait three days, and before you know it, we are defenseless against a tyrannical government that has seized them all.
First, to my friend’s credit, she did not dick around with what I was saying (this is one reason she is my friend and I love her so much. She is instellectually honest and consistent.) She stopped for a moment and considered what I had said, and smiled and said “You’re absolutely right. They shouldn’t permit compromise because taking away the guns is exactly the end goal. I undertstand their position completely and do not begrudge them the fight they put up.” And then went on to add: “Which is why I will never concede an inch to them, because I know their ultimate goal is to take away a woman’s right to choose.”
Okay, I grant this. To the extremes at either end, on both issues. The stridently right and left want absolutely no ground given, because losing anything is losing everything. Which they know because for them that is in fact the goal.
I contend that neither side does themselves any favors in this. For instance, with abortion, no one that I’ve ever heard of is really thrilled or even indifferent to late-term abortion. Everyone finds it repugnant. But to rabidly cling to the right to have it (for reasons other than medical) doesn’t endear the pro-choice side to anyone, really, since the numbers tell us that most people, by a large majority, favor two things: a woman’s right to choose, and a belief that the longer a fetus develops, the more repugnant abortion becomes. So why not work for a compromise? Why not give the pro-life folks a little ground in the form of restricting a form of abortion that is anathema to most people anyway, and pretty rare to boot? The slippery slope, of course.
As a result of being so extreme, the various sides undermine their own cause by ultimately repelling the very folks they need for their cause: the rest of us.
So what I’m driving this long, long road to get to is actually this: most of us, on most issues, are somewhere in the middle. Yet the extreme edges will give nothing. Since compromise is what most people want, would giving in be giving up? Is the slippery slope for real? Are the extremes of both ends better off staying extreme, continuing to fight at the far edges of the battles, to keep from losing ANY ground? Are all compromises doomed to become total surrenders by one side or the other? In other words, do we need to be so paranoid?
And if so…why is that, when most of us don’t favor extreme positions?
Discuss
Stoid
PS: Interesting side note about my friend and I and our respective postitions on the abortion thing: she is the loving and very devoted mother to two really terrific children, and I am voluntarily and determinedly childless. Whoda thunk it?