The Widespread Culinary Taboo Against Using Cheese In Seafood Dishes?

I just saw a commercial for Red Lobster (it was food pornography, it was so mesmerizing). The grill chef was displaying gorgeous slabs of grilled fresh fish, and not a one of them was besmirched by cheese.

I’m guessing Seafood Mornay isn’t big in the US?

I agree, both with this being the source of the idea, and with this being mostly true. Parmesan on a scampi or similar light shellfish dish will indeed stomp all over the seafood flavor. I mean, go ahead and do it on your own plate if you want, but don’t ruin* my* scallops that I can’t afford to eat all the time.

And the plate I had of it here at a trendy pub wasn’t that great - they overcooked the lobster, so it was chewier than it needed to be.

People may be forgetting the humble tuna melt.

I never thought of that. But at one grocery store I’d occasionally buy sole filet stuffed with shrimp and Monterey Jack cheese. Pretty good, actually.

I just encountered a salmon cake recipe that uses paneer (Indian cheese), in Bal Arneson’s Everyday Indian cookbook. I’m going to try it on my husband soon (I’m a veg so I won’t be trying it) and will see what he thinks. Since paneer cheese is very firm and not melty, I think it might be better suited to this kind of mix than many other cheeses.

On my second friday in Germany some many many years ago as a teenager, my exchange Mother informed me that we were having fish for dinner and if that was ok? I pouted a bit and said that fish wasn’t exactly my favorite… well it turned out to be frozen prepared fish (Dr. Oetker’s, maybe?) it was very mild whitefish filet concoction with a cheese and herb sauce which if I had to guess was probably sole in a similar mode to what rowwrbazzle and irishgirl have intimated. Turned out I really liked that fish and even preferred it compared to my limited experience with perch and walleye fish frys and fishsticks. So there you go, one of my first aha moments, with a young palate averse to the flavor of fish was eating fish and cheese/dairy in Germany.

I’d really like to know what that frozen, prepared, line of German fish from the 80’s was? I don’t think it was Doc Oetkers’s- It was extremely good and high quality for a frozen fish product, the particular kind I had was probably best described as a “Sole Mornay with herbs” or something along those lines… it seemed to be stuffed with cheese, IIRC. They seemed to be a big hit with the family and my EXchange Mother showed me the boxes they came in, maybe the German Dopers know what I am talking about? Sure beat the hell out of Gorton’s.

For an up to date version- I did find this.

I’ve seen quite often at various restaurants many versions of parmesan crusted tilapia and walleye.

I like you, can I bear your children?

I agree that lobster doesn’t go well with cheese (for my taste), but the undigestibility of that dish can be blamed completely on the lobster. Lobster is one of those foods that make me feel like a snake that has just swallowed a small elephant*.
I have always heard of this taboo too, but I can’t get too worked up, people often eat things I disapprove of and there’s nothing I can do about it. And yes, delicate fish should not compete with cheese, or any other thing (easy on the seasoning, people!) and tasty/greasy fish will clash with cheese. IMHO, that is.
*BTW, if ever there was a proof that humans would eat anything, lobster is it. I mean, it is darn tasty, but I can imagine one of our ancestors coming from a swim and telling his wife “hon, I saw this giant alien, armored insect. I am sure it will taste great!”.

There are bagels with lox and cream cheese.

And I’ve made salmon pizza.

Crab rangoon?

Raw oysters. Here, lets swallow this mobile snot … it slithers on the way down.