Interesting. It’s important to remember that men and women view sex entirely differently. I’ve read (I believe it was on these very boards, so make of that what you will) that for men, sex within a committed relationship is an affirmation of love. That is, men show how much they love their partner through sex, and having sex is an affirmation of love and committment between the two parties. The physical is connected to the emotional.
Women, on the other hand, show love in more emotional and less physical ways (not that they don’t use sex in the same way as men, to affirm love, but that there’s also much more of an emotional component). They must have the emotional commitment to want to have the sex, so to speak. In this case, the physical is less connected to the emotional - women can love without sex, as it were, and must feel emotionally loved before wanting to have sex.
Dunno - it’s made a lot of sense to me. And in that context, it makes sense why men would view sexual betrayal as the most bitter. Because in that context, the sexual betrayal really is a betrayal of love (it is an emotional betrayal). Whereas for women, who are more likely to separate sex from love, would view emotional betrayal as the worst.
Or I could be full of hooey. But it makes sense to me (female, if anyone’s asking). Take from it what you will.