Its been a week and a half and they wont reply to any texts(job place). I called yesterday, and we got disconnected. I give up. One more interview saturday, my only hope.
You’re entirely right about the way it’s supposed to work. I just have little faith in the system. Generally, enforcement of the rules is on the renter.
I don’t think you’re wrong about that, but getting antagonistic with a landlord in an area/situation without robust renter’s protections is just asking for your rent to go way up or lease not to be renewed.
Fuck the nanny state and ridiculous restrictions on stimulant medications. I am permitted to request a refill for my ADHD medication no earlier than two days before it runs out. This makes weekends impossible. I called Friday to get my scrip filled (I have to call my shrink every month and request a refill according to the law) and of course due to Memorial Day they were closed.
I went through four days of withdrawal and it was awful. The main symptom is intense, persistent sleepiness that makes it nearly impossible to function. This happens on a semi-regular basis because of the laws controlling stimulants and my pharmacy rarely having the drug available, but this was the longest and worst bout I’ve had. I couldn’t spend any meaningful time with my son during the holiday because I couldn’t stop falling asleep. I couldn’t drive yesterday. I slept two hours and could have kept sleeping forever. I had a meeting with my son’s psychologist that I barely comprehended. I pounded back a coke because I am really sensitive to caffeine and thought it might help me cook dinner, but it had so little effect, I still fell asleep last night with no problem.
They need to create a clause for good behavior. I’ve been taking this medication for a few years now, and it’s obvious I’m not selling it. I just want to take my medication uninterrupted.
I’m definitely not at the “time to pursue legal action” point. My landlord just has a big heart (he’s a way better person than I am) and is trying to help. And I did say it was okay for a couple days. It’s just gone on a lot longer than I had anticipated.
And it’s not like he decided his buddies could stay with me while they were in town for the weekend and if I said no, they’d just go home. These people, as far as I know, don’t really have anywhere else to go. Maybe they would if they tried harder, maybe not. I’m already more involved with them than I want to be, so I don’t really ask about all those details.
I am going to ask my landlord next time I see him if there’s any kind of progress and, if not, if there’s anything I can do to help move things along and find them some kind of acceptable alternative lodging. We’ll start with “I’d like this arrangement to not go on for too much longer. Let’s work together to achieve that without leaving a whole family in even more of a crisis situation than they already find themselves in,” before moving on to “My patience has run out and I want them gone regardless of whether or not they have anywhere else to go,” and see what pans out.
You are a good person. I admire your caring spirit. My patience would have worn thin a long time ago, especially as a person who treasures my solitude as you do also. I’m glad you’re going to talk to the landlord. There’s a middle ground between, “my needs should always come first” and “my needs should always come last” and I hope you find it. It’s not easy.
I’m kind of reminded of the time we found a nanny during COVID times, who was really not good at her job. But she was on the verge of homelessness so it took us forever to fire her because we didn’t want to be the reason her and her child were out on the street again. We tried to help her a lot. But the situation with her and her kid in our house was so stressful and our son’s needs were not being met. He was having crazy meltdowns which I now realize were due to sensory overload and she could not handle them. She was also consistently about 30-60 minutes late every day. So we eventually did fire her, and she definitely blamed us and called us every terrible name in the book, saying we were evil and responsible for her impending homelessness, which didn’t feel great, but it opened the door to a much more peaceful life for us. I mean the calm that descended over our house was almost instantaneous. I’m sorry there are people in poverty, I do all I can with my votes and my career to work on those issues, but one thing that I learned as an advocate is that helping others doesn’t have to come at the expense of my peace of mind. It’s okay to let other people carry the load sometimes.
That’s the best I’ve got.
Last night, Jack (cat) came into the bedroom loudly proclaiming that his food bowl was empty. So me, being the dutiful cat daddy, follow him to the kitchen to rectify this terrible situation. The “bowl” is a 9" high sided plastic plate.
There was a square inch of plate visible at the bottom.
Asshole.
Not that you can really rant about a cat being a cat.
Someone should invent a bowl-jiggler, that shakes a cat’s food bowl every so often to redistribute the food. Might need a sensor so it doesn’t move while the cat is actually eating.
Uh oh. Time for June rants. Summer is going to go by too quickly!
Yep, then winter will drag on for what feels like years.
What is this “winter” of which you speak?
Oh, yeah, I remember. A time of great influx of people with difficult attitudes and grating accents. None of whom are from PA I’ll hasten to add. 
Actually, I think it would be pretty funny to watch a cat eating from a bowl that suddenly starts shaking.
There are people who deserve help and people who deserve to be kicked to the curb. Helping the former is a wonderful thing. Helping the latter is simply screwing yourself in the service of their mindless selfishness and abject dysfunction.
From your description, I think these folks are solidly behind Door #2.
I can tell you from personal experience that cats notoriously have no sense of humour whatsoever, as illustrated below.
Regards,
A dog.
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This is far too much effort and self-sacrifice if you ask me. I could never feel safe in this untenable and insecure living situation and I would be seeking a new rental where the lease is airtight and the landlord is a faceless corporate entity whose business model includes abiding by the law.
Am I right that you have been giving these people rides to places?
Hey! Heh
An image once well described (by you, I think) as “a cat with no fucks left to give”! 
The guy who wrote the op ed said that." This cat had one fuck left. Now its gone". Actually hope that cat is doing well now.
I know, I was just wishing we could see a “where he is now” picture.
Maybe this is him.