Well, Libertarian, as a matter of fact, the boss’ wife WILL be crying. Apparently, she had to compromise to have one hour of open bar time at the party.
Zoe, I do plan on taking my Book of Satan with me to the party and will read it whole-heartedly just before we say grace.
Shit! Where are my extra needles when I need my fix!?!?!
If it’s my party, I’ll serve whatever I bloody well want to.
Good god, you’re a selfish brat.
What if they decided not to serve tomatos? That’s their RIGHT!
IT IS THEIR PARTY!!! They don’t even have to invite everyone, but they’re doing so.
You want to drink? Fine, but that doesn’t mean that as a party host I have to subsidize it. You have a choice of going out to the bar next door to buzz up, if you prefer. Or step outside at the smoke-free wedding, or go out to Mickey D’s if you absolutely have to have your meat fix. But I’m not going to buy you cigarettes in case you feel like lighting up.
And no, the host is not obligated to provide all possible choices. You go to a party, you get what’s offered. Take it or leave it. Hosts are required to be hospitable, and guests are required to be gracious. (And no, hospitable does not mean they have to give you free booze.) Besides accepting what’s offered, graciousness includes not calling down judgment upon the matter of who made the party arrangements and whether they were entitled to do so.
I think the religious angle is a bit overblown here as well. If you were invited to a Jewish home where they kept kosher, would you expect them to serve you up a big slab o’pig? A Muslim friend of ours throws wonderful parties, with no booze and frequently no meat. Is he imposing his beliefs on us? Hell no. It’s not like he has everyone get down and pray to Mecca. It’s just food.
I repeat (as have several others), NOT SERVING SOMETHING does not equal FORCING THEIR BELIEFS ON YOU. Get over it.
My goodness, everyone. AFAIK the social standard for parties is to serve some kind of alcoholic beverages. I don’t see our OP preparing to bomb the toilets in subtle retribution for Eris’s sake (though, you know, it would be interesting, for Eris’s sake or not).
Yes, it is their party. And they could choose to have it alone, too. Most of us plan to go a little out of our way for our guests at parties by offering assorted snacks, music, seating, standing areas, free conversation, and gasp alcohol. It is better to not want a drink and have one available than to want a drink and not have one available.
Or something.
It’s their choice to have the party that way, and our OP’s to complain about it. And yours to complain about the complaints.
Hail Eris.
erl
Sorry; didn’t catch the lack of the boss’s wife paying earlier…kind ditzed out.
Anywaybies, to be blunt, it’s their choice, and there isn’t anything you can do about it. Not only that, but they are fully entitled to make that choice. I, for one, don’t blame them; I don’t like to see people get drunk. I hate it when I go to Christmas parties and see a crapload of snockered people. It’s especially bad when I’m expected or required to attend these events (things such as parties held by where my parents work or some such); I have to at least put in an appearance, and the hour or so I’m there, I have to use every bit of self-control I have to keep from punching anyone I see who’s had tee many martoonies.
However, I recognize that it’s the party-throwers’ right to serve alcoholic beverages. I mean, it diminishes my enjoyment, but I’m not the one who’s hosting it. C’est la vie. Or however it’s spelled.
Bullsh*t.
You’re saying that, say, a Vegan would be rude to invite you over and not serve you a big hunk o’ meat? A Jew would be rude to invite you over and not serve pork chops?
Gimme a break. An office party is (at best) a perk. To snivel that the perk isn’t quite to your liking is ungrateful or even pathetic.
As everyone else has said, if you’re so in need of booze, have a couple of shots before going, stay 20 minutes, leave, go to a bar.
Erislover: Sez who? Most parties I go to don’t have booze served. Certainly no office parties.
Fenris
Not for everyone – That’s the point! If you want to throw a party, and you feel that the “social standard” to which you want to conform calls for serving alcohol, then go ahead and good for you. But not everyone feels that way.
God forbid anyone should try something different . . .
Okay…stop picking on me…
I graciously accept invitations to my friends home, who is a born-again Christian, and does not drink…and I have a lovely time. I am not talking about individual-private parties or home gatherings. Gezz!
AGAIN…One more time…I am talking about a company party. For the employees. NOT for my boss’ wife.
Okay, so I’m a spoiled brat…spank me.
:smack:
Is this your first Pit thread?
Seimsi: Are you getting paid by the smilie or what?
sorry for all the smilies…
…I am quite expressive (melodramatic) when I talk, and besides, I’m a spoiled brat who is ungrateful.
(well, not really, but you guys think I am!)
no this is not my first thread.
And AGAIN, you are not an employee, your husband is, and you are complaining that you cannot mooch in the manner you desire.
Hmmmm.
gobear…now that you said it like that, I think you are right. I’m a moocher.
Thanks for enlightening me.
But, the boss’ wife is NOT an employee…hmmmmm. And the boss DOES like to drink…hmmmmmmm.
OH! I forgot to put in a simile…:wally
Seimsi: Are you allowed to BYOB? And are you actually complaining about a free party where you get to basically show up, chat and eat and drink for no money?
Here’s some cheese to go with that … sparkling cider…
I’ve never been to a social gathering that wasn’t one of two ways:
Whatever. I think the OP has a point. It is somewhat obfuscated by typical ranting rhetoric, but I agree.
We always drink on company lunches, even, or at least our Pres does and it is not frowned upon. Different strokes. Our OP even allotted that it was their party. That doesn’t eliminate the right to complain.
Yah, so? It’s a company party, for the employees, NOT for the employee’s wives. You don’t have any more “stake” in this party than she does. Sorry, that argument holds no water.
Scarltet,
I was also ranting for the employees of my husband’s company who like to have an occasional drink. Not for the spouses.
Ah…who cares. It’s my opinion and I’m sticking to it.
It’s people like Siemsi that make hosting parties such fun!
“What is this brie? I hate that.”
“No shrimp? Every party should have shrimp!”
“No let ME pick the music, yours is terrible”
And here’s a smilie for you, I hope I code it correctly:
:get bent:
jarbabyj,
Did you say something?