Oh, you’re twins. This makes a single sex act by a normally faithful person more likely.
What’s the error rate on this stuff? Those labs can’t be any better than the hospitals making misdiagnoses, can it?
My sister got the kit for christmas and so I was obligated even though I was not interested. 60% English, Welsh, and NW European. 40% Scottish and Irish. So money wasted to discovery the obvious. But now, a woman has contacted me through the Ancestry website claiming to be the half sister dad sired a few years before he married mom. An unwelcome thing to dwell on, for me. A large part is just the thought of my straight-laced morally upright dad knocking up a random woman and leaving does not fit my image of him. But, TBH, maybe he didn’t know. Secondly, I hate spending any time around my full-on legit relatives, so I am NOT happy about the idea of introducing a whole new branch into my life. Third, I’m suspicious that this could be a long-con. Every fact that was presented to me could have been gotten off the internet through searches, my dads obit, or other sources. I showed the email to my sis who showed it to mom. Mom said, hey, not my kid. Don’t care. But she also said that yes, dad, amazingly, did date women before meeting mom. Totally possible. But I haven’t thought about it since I deleted the email until this thread reminded me.
This thread reminded me to check in on my 23 & Me acct. I had two contact requests that could potentially be my niece and nephew.
I have never cared in any more than an academic way about my ancestry. Having been adopted in the '60s , records were sealed and that’s just the way it was, so no need to obsess over it. It is kind of weird to not resemble anyone in your family, and, as I’ve mentioned here, my swarthy good looks (ha!:rolleyes:) are very hard to pin down as far as ethnicity (or so I’ve been told every day of my life).
I think it’s mostly harmless fun. And even if I only get a “pen pal” or two, that’s more people than I have in my life at the moment.
It could be artificial insemination. Thanks for calling my mom a whore dickhead.
It’s the absence of his genes. They’re present in my nieces and nephews but not in ours.
My brother (?) ran the test and found that he is considerably more Neanderthal than most, but I don’t know if the Geico Cavemen have contacted him.
I never called her a whore. There is a huge line between extramarital affair and “whore”. Not to mention the fact that it’s possible your father allowed it. That your mom had an affair, or that your parents were swingers are both a million times more likely than your theory about your mom being a surrogate for her friends and then keeping the baby.
You can look on the website and see who close relatives are. You should easily be able to spot close genetic relatives that you haven’t heard of before and pinpoint if they’re related to Lyle. But somehow I think you’d rather cling to the romantic notion of your parents helping out Lyle, even though adoption was open to them.
Why didn’t the other couple ever go ahead and adopt another available child? Your theory is really grasping at straws.
Don’t look for zebras when the clues all point to horses.
You’re in Texas? Gestational agreements are legally enforceable contracts in that state. Your mother could not have changed her mind without the consent of the donors.
Both of them are dying? And they didn’t know this until after your mother became pregnant?
Non sequitur.
SigMan, you are in denial. Absent any additional evidence not presented in your posts, the simplest explanation is that your mother had an affair. That doesn’t make her a whore, it makes her a pretty normal human being.
Sue and Lyle named you?
Well, there is this recent gem of a story: Woman in China gives birth to twins with different dads | Metro News
Yes and my brother. I was born in Milwaukee Wisconsin and sorry for the outburst. I guess I’ll never know.
For all we know, my dad lost a poker bet (pardon the pun). :rolleyes:
My mom is a gracious woman. This is an unusual situation.
I am so sorry but…[Gollum]whorses.[/Gollum]
If your mom is alive and it bothers you so much, have you tried just asking her? Don’t put it in terms of ‘whoring around,’ just say you want to know who your genetic father was.
Is your mother still alive?
Then ask her, for Og’s sake.
It sounds to me like you have very little understanding of genetics, and I’m not convinced that you know enough to make the conclusions you’re making. Is there a scientifically-oriented person you could consult with?
I just found out yesterday and mom passed in 98. My dad passed in 65, both taken their secrets with them.
But with genetic testing, you can reveal those secrets. You can find likely relatives in the databases and piece together the mystery. If nothing else, it may be pretty easy to determine if Lyle is your father.
True story:
I was in a business meeting with a client who is also a fairly good friend for some years. He disclosed (rather cheerfully) that he had done the DNA thing and almost immediately found that he has a son he never knew existed. The son is about 26 now and was the product of a short-term relationship in another state. (The mother never made any attempt to get back in touch with my friend.) My friend has three children with his current wife and they range from 9 to 16.
Fast forward several months. My friend now expresses some regret that he ever did the tests. Things have not gone smoothly in a number of unforeseen areas. The newly-revealed son expects to be a big part of the family (along with his mother), has hinted strongly about inheritance, and generally cast a shadow over the relationship in a variety of ways.
It’s not like you could earn that money in their stead, it’s the result of being able to sell the aggregate results of millions of tests. Your individual test isn’t worth all that much. Which is why no one has tried the business model “We’ll pay you to have your DNA-tested” yet.
Have you considered that perhaps there were fertility issues with your father but your parents wanted more children? Could you be the result of artificial insemination, in which case it would have been done with the full knowledge of both your parents and with your dad’s approval. Back in the day AI was a Deep Dark Secret, even more so than adoption, so parents didn’t tell their kids about that.
Or maybe it’s something else. I’m just throwing that out as a not-so-terrible alternative to some other scenarios.
The only people who either get free DNA testing or paid to have theirs tested are folks with (usually) horrific rare genetic diseases in their family, So being in the category “you have to pay to get yours tested” isn’t all bad.