We were spanked for most normal kid trangressions, lying was the big one, but also too much fighting and torturing each other, getting in trouble at school, backtalk, not doing chores/homework, taking stuff we shouldn’t, etc. The standard punishment was spanking, which varied in severity by who was administering it and how in control of their emotions they were, but neither parent attacked us angrily or without warning.
I went to a private parochial school that delighted in trying to beat Satan out of our backsides. Lying, blaspheming, swearing, smoking, talking during class, fighting, not doing homework, cheating, all the usual suspects and disrespecting any adult was the big catch-all. I once got beat on for sticking my tongue out at an elderly librarian, behind her back. I got “swats” weekly, usually a few times, from grades K-6th, and you bet your ass I was thrilled to get into public school.
I’d say we were pretty aware of all the rules at home and school, I don’t recall there being any surprise beatings or random crazy changes in parental expectations to deal with. Unfortunately for my parents, I did weigh the consequences and usually decided to misbehave anyway. As the youngest of four, I figured out fairly early that they wouldn’t kill me and I could live through anything else they could dish out, so I disobeyed constantly. It was particularly vexing for them in my teen years, I was too big for spankings and would just endure the lectures, groundings, removal of privileges or whatever and break rules.
Re: getting beat at home for getting beat at school, the idea was kids are supposed to go to school and follow the rules and work hard to get their education. Break a rule at school and the school punishes you for the actual transgression, the parents punish you for violating the prime directive of not screwing up at school, period.
There was a Lot of drama in my extended family because my parents firmly believed in spanking and the rest of the family didn’t. I remember abruptly leaving holiday gatherings because an aunt or grandparent tried intervening and refusing to let our parents spank us in their home. Obviously, there must have been many arguments over the issue I wasn’t privy to as a kid, but there was enough drama that even we were aware of it. I don’t recall feeling very victimized by it, or feeling like the rest of the family should stick up for us and get us out of an abusive situation or anything, most of the kids we knew were spanked, I didn’t feel abused as a little kid.
OTOH, there were times when we were teenagers that we pushed them over into angry physical responses like an open slap to the face, and that was wrong and no one knows righteous indignation like a teenaged girl, but that’s separate from the spanking punishment we received as children.