Lot of posters in nostalgia threads claim they were
– paddled in school
– spanked/paddled by their parents
– slapped by random adults who caught them committing a transgression away from home
and of course, if it did happen away from home, they got in MORE trouble when their parents found out, dunt dunt dunt.
So two questions.
What kind of behavior earned a paddling? And did you know the rules going in, or was it random? And come to that, did you weigh the cost-benefit ratio before committing one of these transgressions? Or were paddlings so common they weren’t much of a deterrent?
Why further punishment when your parents found out? Because you’d brought shame on the family? Because what you’d done was so horrible, you had to pay full penance? Or were they merely angry, instead of meting out further discipline?
For the record, yes, I was spanked as a kid. And that was mostly justified. But I was also slapped in the head, punched, kicked, thrown up against walls, and so on and so forth. Not justified, IMO. Plus, there was the old Wall of Sound: being berated nonstop for half an hour or more… And most importantly, there were never any stated rules. Sometimes it was a matter of crossing a line I didn’t know existed. Other times, as my mom freely admits, she/he/they simply had to take their frustration out on someone, and I was at the end of the line.
As such, I’m not really sure where I stand on spanking. I’m okay with it in theory, but I can’t help wondering: Were all these legendary paddlings truly justified? And did they truly curb unsatisfactory behavior?