Omegaman , contrary to the proverbial situation, I was born with a wooden cross on my back. It’s taken me years to whittle it down to a platter-sized chip on my shoulder that I only occasionally use to take umbrage (reserving the right to umbrage where umbrage is due).
However, I continue to work on my anger issues since they’re never completely behind me; I wish you well in doing the same.
If you doing it right, it’s a must.
Omegaman , I hopefully have a bit of perspective from someone whose walked a step or two in similar shoes (minus any violence) and have always lived under a mother’s shadow who bears the same burdens that you seem to do.
[ul][li]Some things aren’t necessary to share ever, like being able to achieve orgasm 7 billion times or make 462 gazillion dollars per minute. Others only rarely, like having Michael Jordon as a best friend or the box seats for the World Champion team-of-your-choice. Therefore, with this crowd, it actually hampers your message to probably mention Jesus with every other breath. Don’t be ashamed, and certainly bring Him into the picture when it’s necessary, but otherwise know your audience so that you don’t turn them away with an unpalatable message. Because I’m pretty sure that’s not the goal you wish to achieve.[/li][li]Whether it’s fair or not, someone who openly identifies as a Christian is undoubtedly held to a higher standard than others. Therefore anything that smacks of beratement, coercion or moral superiority is not only frowned upon, but ridiculed and eviscerated. It’s perfectly fine to be, and act, human. However, pandering to an immature squabble will only undermine your sincerity and witness. I can’t stress these enough… but LISTEN. Also, see multiple sides. Give the benefit of the doubt. Acknowledge any who want to befriend/help/stand up for you. Leave the back and forth for those who enjoy that sort of thing (either in GD or playfully teasing Auto ). [/li][li]Last, I’ve always found that “being still” helps. It’s kind of like Christ’s suggestion for us to “turn the other cheek.” The peace gained from both; not allowing anger to mar your interactions and re-considering anything you have to say before you post, will save your sanity and promote respect, understanding and mutual learning. There’s many more too. Just be true to your belief in a higher love and that should cover, I would think, any earthly concerns.[/li][/ul]
I don’t know if this will help or if it sounds wise rather than idiotic. But I do pray you find what you need here, and in turn, shine your light on everyone with a simple but beautiful candle. That way, you can toss out the bull horn and spot light. No undermining need apply. Humblest regards to you and yours.
It is wise and appreciated. Thank’s friend.