Tips for a happy life

Share good meals with family and friends.
Hug cats, and dogs too if you’re into that.
There’s nothing wrong with escapist entertainment!

Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

I like to have really nicely scented shower gels, moisturisers, powders, perfumes, bath stuff, etc. Hey, you have to get clean somehow - having an array of wonderful scents makes it interesting, and more like an indulgence than an obligation. “Ugh, I have to shower” becomes “Ooh, what can I use in the shower today?”

Lame, perhaps, but you take the small pleasures where you can. :smiley:

Grow salad greens and/or herbs in a box, and eat them regularly. They’re astonishingly easy, healthy and tasty.

Bike to work if possible. Instead of stressing during your daily commute, you can get exercise and fresh air.

Take every opportunity to dance outdoors. It’s way more fun that way.

Try to stay away from the legal system.

Try to stay away from the health care system.

Do meditation.

Get a good night’s sleep.

Smile at everyone! It feels good to do it, and it feels good to have them smile back at you!

Don’t take life too seriously, it is in no way permanent. Embrace change.

There’s no virtue in stress or busyness. When others brag about how stressed or busy they are, don’t get caught up in the feeling that you’re not productive enough. Find your own point of balance. Do less. Feel more. Be present. Don’t feel guilty for it.

Be bored sometimes. “The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.”- Albert Einstein

Listen to your body. Heed its warnings.

Follow your passions.

Tell the truth. Be authentic.

Live your life in ways that are true to your principles.

Do the right thing, even if it’s not the easy thing.

I agree, FI. I tell myself: life is all about change ~ without change you’re dead.

Lots of good thoughts here, great thread!

Don’t say “no.”

A few years ago I took a trip to east Africa with a friend from high school. Another friedn of ours was driving us to the airport when he mentioned his experience as a caretake on a deserted island. He was the only person there for a few months, aside from occasional tour groups and supply deliveries. When I asked how he got into that, he responded “same way you got into this - I didn’t say no.”

I hope I never forget that.

Learn how to cook. Seriously. You’re going to need to eat every day for the rest of your life. How you someone with any desire to enjoy life NOT want to know how to do it?

I know that “learn how to play music” or something sounds cooler, but seriously, learn to cook.

I would no sooner give up my ability to cook than I would my ability to sleep. There are people who hit the age of 40-50 whatever that don’t cook. They’re 40 freaking years old with 2 kids and still popping frozen food into the microwave for dinner.

Don’t make decisions about your personal life based on what people think you’re supposed to do. If you’re happily single, don’t give in to people who want to fix you up with someone because they think everybody needs somebody. If you really don’t like children, don’t believe it when people tell you it would be different with your own.

Do take time to enjoy the little moments that come your way. A sunbeam, a spring breeze, a glass of wine, a tasty meal. Pay attention to them.

Accept your body. If you’re going bald, do so with dignity and/or humor. Don’t get a combover. Minor flaws make a person interesting, not hideous.

And, as the famous philosopher once said:

Be your spouse’s best friend and companion in the whole world. The one person with whom you can be yourself without shame, for whom everything is all right. Remind him or her that they are special to you, and why. Often.

If you have a successful relationship with your spouse, it is your duty to not mess it up. Do what you must. Do the right thing. Treat your spouse in such a way that he or she will never want to leave you. If there’s one place you should want to be happy, it ought to be in your relationship. Be very nice to the other person, for choosing you.

Never listen to** Dave Matthews** unless you have a man handy. Otherwise you will be driven to insane behavior and excessive risk-taking.

Be your spouse’s best friend and companion in the whole world. The one person with whom you can be yourself without shame, for whom everything is all right. Remind him or her that they are special to you, and why. Often.

If you have a successful relationship with your spouse, it is your duty to not mess it up. Do what you must. Do the right thing. Treat your spouse in such a way that he or she will never want to leave you. If there’s one place you should want to be happy, it ought to be in your relationship. Be very nice to the other person, for choosing you.

Be polite. (In the most comprehensive meaning of the word - be mindful of other people’s feelings. Be considerate of them. Use basic courtesy.)

To everyone.

All the time.

Even people you don’t like.

Yourself most of all.

Seriously, be polite.

Don’t dwell on what you perceive to be your physical flaws. If you don’t like it, see what you can do about changing it - but don’t dwell and obsess.

Try it once. Doesn’t matter what “it” is - try it once. How do you know you don’t like it if you don’t try it?

Treat yourself with the respect and love you’d give to the most special person you can think of.

Get a hobby. Something you can be intensely passionate about. Spend time with it.

Choose happiness.

Wash, rinse. Repeat.

But not obsessively

Laugh.

Do things, don’t just think about doing them.

Don’t be easily insulted.
If they are your friends, they didn’t mean it.
If they aren’t your friends, why do you care.