Tips is getting two cats to co-habitate?

Through circumstances that I am partly to blame for, I’m currently homeless and sleeping in a friend’s spare bedroom. In tow, I have my 6-year old cat, Beru. So far, so good, right?

My friend, Rebecca, has a one-year old male cat named Frank (Beru is female). Both cats have been fixed, so there’s no risk of pregnancy. Neither cat has been declawed.

The problem stems from the fact that Frank’s litterbox is in the spare bedroom, and has been since Rebecca adopted him months ago. Initially, Frank’s litterbox was moved to the downstairs bathroom. After a few days, however, Rebecca expressed that she didn’t like it there, and was returning it to its original spot.

I think that Frank feels intimidated in having to go into the spare bedroom, where the other cat is (thus invading her turf), in order to use the litterbox. I will admit that I haven’t seen him go elsewhere. However, I haven’t seen him use it since it’s been returned to the spare bedroom. Rebecca refuses to allow it to move again.

She cares for her cat, and understandably so. She naturally doesn’t want him stressing out. However, I think she is adding tothe stress on both animals this way.

Beru’s always been a very skittish cat that doesn’t handle stress well. Just like her daddy. Frank’s a very outgoing, good-natured cat. I’ve tried petting one while the other watches, then petting the other one. I’ve tried using toys to play with them both at the same time.

They WILL tolerate being in the same room for brief periods of time. Usually one’s growling though. To be honest, it’s usually Beru that starts it.

Any tips for trying to lessen the amount of stress on both cats without being able to move the litterbox? I still see that as a major stress point.

Would it be possible for your friend to get another litterbox and put it downstairs? Frank might not like it, but at least it will give him a choice. I’ve heard that it’s a good practice to have (within reason, of course) as many litterboxes, food dishes, and water dishes as there are cats in the house. Maybe if Frank has a choice of litterboxes to use, he’ll decide it’s easier to just use the other one rather than invade Beru’s turf, but “his” box will still be there if he can’t deal with the change.

Get a second litterbox, and put it in your zone. This is the one thing you can do to lessen the stress of the situation. A closet is useful for containing the smell. If no closet is available, you’re going to have to suck it up as far as living in the same room as a litterbox.

Some cats will never get along with each other. I was recently in the same situation as you (I was the house provider) and one of my cats had to be separated for the entire stay of the other cats. He would attack them the second he saw them ( he is neutered AND front-declawed, the other cats, who had claws, were very passive/scared of him) My other cat was fine with it.

There are two litterboxes. The one that Frank’s always had, and the one that Beru’s always had. Same with food and water dishes. I knew better than to try to force them to share everything (especially after only a few days…it’s only been since Thursday, so it’s still an adjustment for both).

Sorry if I confused you all in any way by that.