My ex-boyfriend had the nasty habit of ‘somehow’ knowing what was in the MSN Hotmail I recieved, without ever having accessed my computer directly. I know for sure he never turned it on or touched it in my absence. Nor did he have any of that spiffy software like Remote PC.
Some friends of mine recently suggested that he somehow had my Hotmail identity ‘tapped’, ‘bugged’ or whatever so that he could tell when I signed on, and from where, then afterwards he would have a look see as to what I had sent or kept.
What’s the likelihood of that?
If he could have posed as the account holder, could he somehow have someone or something track that accounts activity?
You sure he didn’t just have your password and read your mail from another machine? That sounds the simplest explanation.
There have also been numerous security problems with Hotmail so he could have read your mail just knowing your username; again, from a different machine (though I assume they’re fixed now. I don’t use Hotmail)
He could have installed a program that covertly records keystrokes. Althought it would have to be installed on the machine you use, and he’d need occasional access to it in order to collect the data logs.
as usual, the cracking division of the world have overcome this problem too, it is now possible to get key-loggers that will periodically mail they’re logs to a specified email address.
Well I did that once…
I had her password because she had asked me to check her mail for her once…
after she dumped me, I checked it a few days later only to see the e-mails she had been sending back and forth with the guy she was cheating on me with…
I doubt that it is anything more advanced than that… just change your password…
My ex used to swear that she never touched my 'puters when I wasn’t around, but she had the endearing (at the time) habit of using a mouse upside-down (dyslexia, maybe?), and she’d forget to turn the mouse back right side up when she left. I just finally stopped asking her, to save her the trouble of another lie.
Oops…I always forget to look at post count…welcome Sue.
Anyway, yeah, there’re loads of ways that this could be done but unless your ex is pretty good with computers I’d guess at the simplest: he knows your password and is looking from a different machine.
[pedant mode] Chagto: It’s “their”. “They’re” means “they are”.
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I know about the full stops bit. I’m right because it’s a crappy rule that should be fixed.
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It sounds pretty obvious, but have you tried changing your password? Is your current password something that’s easy to guess? Change your password to a random mix of letters and numbers. See if he can still get in after that.
I’ll jump on the bandwagon and say: “Just change your password!”
You already said that he doesn’t have direct access to your computer, and you have found no keyloggers. The only method remaining is for him to be logging into your Hotmail account from another computer, and that would require him to know your password.
So the solution is simple. Change the password to something he can’t guess, and he will no longer be able to log into your account.
I had changed the password, several different times. Maybe I am guilty of using obvious ones, but I didn’t think so. I haven’t used a mix of numbers and letters yet, so thanks for that one.
As for how I’m doing?..
Heartache is meant to be a lesson in life, just as love is. And regardless of how much you may care for an individual, if they prove, over time, (by deliberate behavior or just by the nature of their character) to be detrimental to everything in your life from your material possessions, your career and all the way to the core of your heart, you just have to let them go. Whether they like it or not.
I’ve been in my new place for a short while, and am getting settled in and enjoying my new freedom.
Thank you for asking.
This message board appears to draw in a different crowd than the others I’ve used over the years. Or maybe there’s some active enforcement to keep the Rude & Crude Crowd at bay. Mindless of the cause, I think I’ve found a new home.
Now, before this post gets spirited away to a location in MPSIMS under some obscure heading that would be right at home in a tabloid; Thank all of you for your input, and I’ll be seeing you around the message board.
i hope im not too late on this but theres a excellent spy software going by the name of “iopus starr” it is really efficient in sending anon mail to a specified email address without the knowledge of the person using the computer. just to check if ur puter is bugged with it follow this simple step. start>run>starrcmd(u will have to type that in the blank)>enter.
if the software is installed u can see the console otherwise theres absolutely no way of knowin it.
if that doesnt work change ur password to something really obscure.
take care