I don’t think I have it backwards. I don’t doubt that you are doing a good job as coach and are doing your best to run a league that is good for the kids.
My experience goes way back but it was mostly watching the best players play and and the rest just wearing uniforms. 1 at bat isn’t enough. 10 at bats, which will happen at the sandlot, is more like it. The coaches concentrated their coaching on the starters and the scrubs, who needed the most instruction, were left to their own devices. Kids whose parents coached got obvious favoritism.
Let the kids have fun and parents, stay the hell away. Kids have an innate sense of fairness so let them work out their differences. Give the kids some bats, balls, gloves and a catcher’s mask and let them spend the day having fun. Let them put some of those empty fields to good use.
I do have to disagree with you, but not (I think) flame you (YMMV).
I’m associated with the American Youth Soccer Organization (AYSO) as a coach and referee, who stand by the following six philosophies:
Everyone Plays®
Balanced Teams
Open Registration
Positive Coaching
Good Sportsmanship
Player Development
And in general they do an excellent job with it (it’s pretty much an all-volunteer force, I get exactly $0 for my work) and all the kids in our region (1500 or so) must play 3/4 of every game before anyone plays 100%.
That said, the last (and most recently added) philosophy is leading to AYSO “Extra” teams, which stay together year round and play in tournaments against club-level squads, which make adherence to the first five philosophies a bit tougher. I’m still working with kids who just want to play, but if the 'travel League" syndrome starts rearing it’s head, I’ll be out of there.
But right now AYSO is trying (and succeeding) in bringing soccer as a fun game to people.
I have to agree here. I think Little League is great for the sport. I have parents who had no idea what a shortstop was suddenly talking about how well the Nationals are doing. I have 7 year olds who have no talent for the sport learn to enjoy the sport because they get as much playtime as anyone else and frankly most teams distribute the defensive positions evenly between players during the regular season.
This changes a bit later when players are assigned positions and the weaker players start to drop out. But their little league experience stays with them.
The sandlot is not very kind to the scrubs. Scrubs don’t get a lot of playtime in the sandlot. They get picked last (and grudgingly) in front of everyone. They get relegated to right field. They are last in the lineup and their teammates audibly groan when they take the plate. Their teammates tell them they suck because no one is there to teach them about teamwork or sportsmanship. Organized sports is almost the only avenue for scrubs to get much playtime at all.
In our league, the T-Ball, machine pitch, coach pitch teams all have pretty strict player participation requirements that mean that everyone has a spot in the batting order and everyone plays at least 2 infield innings per game. Noone rides the bench twice until everyone has been benched for at least 1 inning. Everyone must use a continuous batting order so at the end of the game, no player will have more than 1 extra at bat compared to any other player.
At these early levels the best players don’t really need much coaching, just their share of swings at bat and their share of fielding and a tip here and there to slowly develop their skills so they will be ready when they get drafted the next season. The worst players will not benefit much from coaching unless a disproportionate amount of coaching time is spent on them. You just need to have them take a lot of swings and field a lot of grounders during practice until they turn that corner and they start batting .300 or better. IME, the best use of coaching time is spent on the .300 to .600 hitters and the fielders who CAN make plays but do not do so consistently.
The way games work at these lower levels, pretty much everything is a single (doubles are pretty rare) so you need 3 hits to fill up the bases before you can score your first run. You can’t focus all your attention on the best 4 or 5 players and leave 4 or 5 holes in your lineup. You will never string together enough hits to score more than 2 or 3 runs in a 6 inning game. You HAVE to work on the weaker players if you want to win any games. It does you little good to have 4 hitters bat .900 and 8 players batting .200. You are going to score 2 runs all game at best.
At higher levels (where you have to get drafted, with no guarantee you will EVER get drafted), there are no scrubs and your coaching time frequently best spent on shoring up your weakest players so you don’t have any automatic outs in your lineup and you can only hide one or two weak fielders on your defense without opening up huge holes in your defense.
Maybe I am using the wrong terminology. Maybe what I am referring to is club teams but most of these “club teams” have an “A” that travels. Their 9 year old teams may not travel much but they are now recruiting 8 year olds for their “club team” I have one kid who was a mediocre player from a southern state and is an absolute star here. The travel team tried to recruit them and the parents literally laughed at them, pointing out that their older son who is a more talented athlete couldn’t get colleges to even notice him never mind offer him scholarships.