I’ve had lots of teachers that were really great at their jobs. They were inspiring and challenging and whatnot, and I’m very grateful to them. But I’d like to single out two teachers who distniguished themselves by their kindness and compassion.
My second grade teacher was an absolute gem. She was the kind of hard-ass who wouldn’t let you go to the bathroom if you asked “Can I go to the bathroom?”–you had to say “May I go to the bathroom?” She was on top of every little mistake in spelling, grammar and punctuation–in second grade, mind you. Some people might say that’s too early, but IMHO the earlier you learn from your mistakes, the sooner you stop making them. The most important thing about her, though, was that while she was very strict, she was also very kind. The rules applied to everyone equally. No one was singled out. She also didn’t dwell on the mistake you made–instead she reinforced the right way.
My first grade teacher was truly awful. She told me I was messy and stupid, and insisted that I was retarded, until I tested out at 5th grade reading level–I sucked at reading class because I was bored out of my skull. I would cry every morning and beg my mother not to make me go to school. (Mom says that to this day, the biggest regret of her life was that she didn’t fight tooth and nail to get me out of that woman’s classroom at the first sign of trouble.) My outstanding second grade teacher somehow managed to heal the damage that had been done, and from then on I was the teacher’s pet and loved school.
And I have to commend my eighth grade science teacher. Junior high was the most awful period of my life. I’ve never been so miserable. (Okay, maybe I was that miserable in first grade, but luckily, I’ve blocked out most of it.) I had no friends at my school. There wasn’t even a loser clique for me to hang with. I was alone, and I was picked out relentlessly. Sadly, I responded to this by being an obnoxious stuck-up little know-it-all, which wasn’t doing anything to help me out.
At the end of each quarter, the science teacher rearranged the seating chart, and everyone got a new lab partner–no exceptions. At the beginning of the second quarter, a new student joined the class because her family had just moved to town, and she and I ended up lab partners. Well, long story short, we became close friends. We were both total geeks and ridiculed mercilessly, but having each other made life a lot more bearable, and having her support gave me enough confidence to grow up some, and be less of a jerk.
At the beginning of the third quarter, our science teacher announced the new seating arrangments, and he’d put us together at the same lab table again. There were protests from the rest of the class about the violation of the policy. Our teacher’s response was, “They’re like a set of salt and pepper shakers. I just can’t break them up.”
I’ve always wanted to thank him for recognizing the specialness of our relationship and our dependence on each other, and doing this one small thing that made such a big difference in our miserable junior high existences. And, inspired by this thread, I did email him! 