Unexpected calmness in a dangerous situation

I was jumped by three guys and beaten in the street a few weeks ago, and entered the same state of dead calm. My thought processes were like:

“They’re punching me in the head, hmmm. [An imaginary me is sucking gently on my meerschaum] Oh, I see, now they’re kneeing me in the head. [I contemplatively stroke my chin with the fingers of one hand] Ah, now I’m on the ground being kicked in the head. [One reads about this sort of thing on the news] Ah well, suppose I’d better do something to prevent death. [But what? Aha! I have it! I shall curl up into a ball with my arms over my cranium. Capital idea - do excuse the pun, what what?]”

It was only about five minutes after they’d stopped that adrenaline and emotion returned, and I started to shake and alternate between being on the verge of impotent tears, and extreme rage.

Yikes. Were they robbing you, or just bored? I’m rethinking my dreams of moving to Britain.

I think you may be right, it is the decision among many options that is so … nerve-wracking.

I have had some similar experiences - the apparent home invasion, loosing control of the car in a secluded area very late at night, the dog breaking his leg - and in every case the seeming certainty of Something Very Bad had a calming effect.

On the other hand, when the situation was less certain - the open front door to me house, waiting for the test results, driving anytime on 128 - then I dither and get agitated.

Nothing so concentrates the mind as the immediate prospect of great pain or death.

Well, I can update my answer now. I was just in a fairly big earthquake. I can’t say I stayed calm, but I also did not panic. Good to know at least I don’t fly off the handle…Although, if I was in the epicenter, who knows…

My sweetie gets annoyed at times by my calmness in the face of things that stress him.
He thinks it’s not caring, but it’s more like 'I’ll worry when I see the body. What can I do about it NOW? '.
Most of my family is like that, though, and do make good nurses and emts.

If you were at the epicenter Autolycus, you would have been flying a whole lot further than ‘off the handle’. :smiley:

Good to see you’re safe and sound dude. Stay that way, OK?

The whole thing about everything seeming to take a lot longer than it actually does (i.e. with the story regarding the lion, and much to my disappointment, the lack of a boat), is a side effect of the adrenaline your body has just dosed itself with. Your heart is cranking the RPMs, your blood vessels are opening up to allow the extra blood to flow to every part of your body, your brain has gone to full on general stations red alert alarm 4 mode, and is now actually processing all the copious amounts of information your senses bring in, as opposed to filtering most of it out like it does for most of your life.

Things don’t seem to go in slow motion, in my experience, but you basically think faster because you are now taking in all the details without needing to take the extra time like you normally would (adrenaline, it’s a hell of a drug). I think part of this might be related to how well trained/experienced you are in a given set of skills. If you are an experienced driver who knows the proper responses to a skid or having to stop suddenly, you are more likely to hit the breaks and steer clear of the hazard than someone who just never gave it much thought or hasn’t done it much.

I have a traffic related story from a minor road trip a room mate and I were taking out in California one time, near Fairfield. We had gone out to go shooting at an outdoor range we had found online, and were driving back that night, with that kind of intense darkness you only see on highways right after sundown. We’re driving and BSing, when just as we crest a hill we see a bunch of backed up traffic right ahead of us, moving much slower than we are.

I stand on the break pedal, feeling the entire car vibrate beneath me, and hearing my room mate say… something. I don’t remember the details, but it wasn’t a happy thing he said. We both realized that we weren’t going to stop in time, so I turned the wheel to the left until I was out of shoulder, and then turned it to the right, zig zagging the car to eat up more of that damned inertia. We stopped with maybe a foot to spare from the next car’s bumper. I wouldn’t describe the feeling as “calm”, but more like “Intensified focus”. Couldn’t say that I was thinking much either, more like concepts. “Brakes! Too fast! Swerve! Shoulder! Lane! Brake lights! Car behind us!” (there was a car close behind us, and nothing to be done about it save hoping he would stop soon enough too, or failing that, having faith in the engineers at General Motors and the workers at the plant in Lansing, Michigan that built the car, who seemed proud enough of their work to put a little decal on one of the windows claiming responsibility for the car’s construction)

After that physics equation had come to its conclusion and nobody had intersected with anybody else, we were both pretty shaken up, but, well, still driving, so we just took a deep breath, collected ourselves, and got on with the rest of the drive, laughing the experience off.

BTW, 2001 Pontiac Grand Am SE? Freaking awesome brakes on that thing. It’s a crying shame Pontiac got shuttered when GM went bankrupt.

EDIT: Oh, and I forgot to mention: This reaction is pretty much what they are hoping for in the military when they make you do the same repetitive tasks over and over and over again, depending on the training environment, maybe while screaming at you in a motivating manner. They want you to go into that mode where you don’t think about what you need to do, you just do it because it’s been hammered into you as a spinal reflex.

That’s not “unexpected calmness in a dangerous situation”, that’s “totally misreading, and then freaking out in, a non-dangerous situation”. I feel sorry for that guy.

Be safe.

I almost died in Iraq and my first thought after it happened was, “I really want some french toast for breakfast.”

It didn’t freak me out until about nine months later when I was safe at home about to deploy again.

When I almost drowned, it took until the moment when I’d accepted that I was about to die and then my mind went ice cold and I was able to calmly flip onto my back, float while I shielded my nose and mouth with my hands, and stop trying to swim to the boat until I’d taken a breath. It wasn’t until I actually made it back to the boat that my legs went weak and I couldn’t climb the ladder. I had to be hauled up by the dive guy.

I was once in a tornado, and my thought pattern involved a lot of “Is something happening? I think it’s possible something could happen” followed by “Garbage is going by the window.” Followed by “A siren! I hear a siren! Man, sirens are cool.”

It wasn’t the only incident that left me wondering how the hell I survived childhood.

The way I look at it, whatever secretes adrenaline is stupid. You get a rush that nearly incapacitates you when it shouldn’t (e.g. stage fright) while when you need it (e.g. a bar fight) it doesn’t kick in.

They were drunk young lads looking for a fight, and I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Luckily I wasn’t as badly hurt as I could have been, and have made a full recovery. I was pretty pissed off all the same.

The UK’s pretty safe, but we do have a nasty tradition of alcohol-fueled fisticuffs.

It must be some sort of survival instinct that kicks in. When I was assaulted (twice) and robbed at knife-point (once) I had that sort of experience other’s have mentioned where time seemed to slow down and I very calmly weighed my options as to how I should behave/react in order to keep safe. I remember screaming at the top of my lungs but not in terror - I was very calmly thinking something along the line “you need to make a lot of noise to attract attention and/or scare the guy off” - and it worked. In each instance once the perp was gone and help arrived I broke down and cried hysterically.

I had a traffic one just a few weeks ago:

I was making a left turn out of my apartment complex. I had to cross 2 lanes of traffic and then merge into the leftmost lane going the way I wanted. This is a busy road, so when you find a gap, you take it.

I found a gap and took it. There was a Metrobus and a dump truck in the rightlane of the side I wanted to get to, but I figured it would be fine because I wanted the left lane and wouldn’t bother them. Maybe a tad risky, but it should have been fine. Except just as I was turning out, the Metrobus stopped to pick up someone and the dump truck, not noticing that I was turning next to him, pulled out to go around him and merged right on top of me.

I drive a little Corolla, which had no chance against a vehicle that size. The dump truck saw me just as he was about to drift into me, but there was nowhere for him to go without hitting the bus. The only place I could go was to drive on the wrong side of the yellow line into oncoming traffic. Thankfully, there was enough clearance for me to dodge the dump truck and dart back over.

After it was over, I felt…nothing. I came very near being crushed by a truck and/or getting into a head-on collision. I didn’t even feel scared. I just calmly drove the rest of my commute.