On Friday, Stepfather was sentenced to 3 years in prison for molesting the 13-year-old girl.
Susan had a bizarre reaction. The very next day, she suddenly left the state with her 6 kids to move to across the country, more than 2,500 miles away (from California to a state in the Southern U.S.)
Here are the details: Two weeks before Stepfather’s sentencing trial, Susan made a mention to Greg of a plan in the event that her husband was sentenced to prison. Apparently, the Stepfather’s female cousin was in town for the sentencing hearing (along with his parents and some other family members). Susan befriended the cousin, who is a woman around the same age as Susan, who is in the middle of a divorce and lives in a small town in the aforementioned Southern state. Susan and this cousin came up with the idea that they could become roommates (since the cousin is divorcing her husband) and the cousin’s parents (Stepfather’s aunt and uncle) offered to pay for a trailer for Susan to pack her things and drive cross-country.
The idea sounded very far-fetched, but we didn’t think she would actually do it. She often talks about things that she never ends up doing.
Two weeks passed, and Greg did not hear any other mention of a plan to move… no mention of packing up the house, nothing.
Then this Saturday - the day after her husband was sentenced to prison - Susan calls Greg from the road and said she’d packed up her house, bailed out on her lease, and had begun her journey across the country - with her 6 children and Stepfather’s cousin - to “begin a new life.” In essence, she is running away, and burying her head in the sand to avoid having to face the truth about her husband that she has denied for so long.
This woman has never held a job in her adult life, has no education, and the father of her younger 3 children will be in prison for 3 years - he was the only breadwinner in her household. His income is gone, and the only other money she has coming is the child support Greg is paying…
She knows no one in this new town except for the cousin. She is leaving an area where she has a large support network of family (mainly her parents) who could help her with handling 6 kids on her own. Greg’s 3 kids were close with their grandparents, and they usually stayed over the grandparent’s house every weekend.
I don’t know what to think. I am worried about how the kids are reacting to all of this. It must be confusing and frightening - their stepfather of 5 years goes to prison, and the next day they are moving across the country? Greg asked them on the phone yesterday, very gently, “how do you feel about your trip?” (answer: “I don’t know,”) and said “if you want to talk about anything, just let me know…” Minutes later, Susan texted him, reprimanding him for asking the kids questions and “stressing them out.”
The only positive thing at this point is that the kids will be within an 8-hour drive of us, so visits will be a lot easier. BUT other than that, I don’t have a good feeling about this.
Greg’s custody case is still ongoing, and the next hearing is scheduled for July. He is going to talk to his lawyer about the latest developments, but I don’t hold out much hope. Now that the stepfather is out of the picture for the next 3 years, a judge no longer has a reason to remove the children - absent any solid proof that Susan is an imminent danger to them.
This sucks. Any thoughts or words of wisdom will be appreciated!