Kid from stereotypical big-city crime-ridden bankrupt public school system weighing in here. :rolleyes: Da Bronx in the mean seventies and early eighties, when even the President said to my city “Drop Dead”. (OK, he was paraphrased).
I’ll deal with the questions that haven’t been answered from this perspective yet:
- What is a “homecoming queen”?
My HS (9-12) was a magnet or “examination” school, one of three in NYC. All right, it was the Bronx HS of Science.
No football, no fields in which to play football, no heat after noon on Fridays, no extra paper, old textbooks, no new sports equipment, no lockers, no malt shops, no parking lot, no place to hang out after school before the kids from the Villa Avenue gang would start on you.
So, no homecoming to be queen of! Although we did have queens
and were ethnically very diverse–mostly immigrant kids and lower-middle-class strivers like me, with a smattering of wealthier Manhattan and Riverdale kids who chose us over Stuyvesant High.
- What is a “yearbook”?
But hey, we had yearbooks, very nice ones too.
- Is a majorette the same as a cheerleader? And what is their significance?
Beats me. We had only four teams of any renown: chess, debate, math, and Ultimate Frisbee. There was a desultory basketball team that did have cheerleaders, but the squad was actually a sort of social club for the African-American girls and most everybody, of every race, totally ignored the sports aspect of school. I attended two games my whole time there, one out of curiousity and one on a date.
- What do you have to do to “graduate” from high school? (In Britain the only graduates are university graduates). Is graduation an exam, like our A-levels?
No, as others have said, but at academically-inclined schools like mine the SATs were a MAJOR rite of passage. Almost everyone went to college, and in those days of better financial aid a lot of us got to go to the best ones. I didn’t have the average for Harvard and MIT but I did get into Wellesley…
- What is a “sorority house”?
…which surprisingly doesn’t have sororities. There are two or three ‘societies’, non-residential gatherings of those inclined towards Shakespeare, poetry, or science. They have little on-campus houses that they can meet in and hire them out for parties (the houses, that is).
Harvard, perhaps the most famous American university, also forbids fraternities and sororities. Again, there’s societies and clubs you can join.
MIT, which is (unfairly IMO) not known for its social whirl, does have them, partly to help with a chronic housing shortage. I mainly socialized with Greeks during my time at Wellesley (which is an all-women’s college). But there was plenty to do without setting foot in a frat house, although the frat parties were considered somewhat cooler. The guys I knew socialized with anybody they liked, and they certainly didn’t lord it over the rest of the students.
- Why are school “proms” so important? Are they just end of term parties?
YPMV, depending on what part of the country you’re in. Science had one, but nobody I knew bothered to go. It cost too much and besides, we were all grunge before it was cool 
Now, I must say that despite the material meagerness, I received a very sound and thorough education and a great part of that was the unwavering support of my friends and family, and going to a school where my intellectual curiousity and geekiness fit right in. I never got mugged, never got robbed, never fell through a rotting floor or anything, and I took two rattletrap city buses every day in total safety. Nor do I mean to suggest that no city school is into sports–some in Brooklyn and Queens and Staten Island have fine teams, and the Catholic system’s another story–but given the perennial budget problems NYC just can’t field the money that some suburban and rural schools can spend on sports. Also, my info is now 20 years out of date. But it’s such a freakin’ huge country, and the main perspective shown abroad (and here too) seems to be that of the manicured suburban sprawling football-crazy HS. When my type of urban school is shown, there’s always gunfire in the background and Michelle Pfieffer is trying to save our souls from the deadening aspects of city life 
And also, it’s a matter of priorities. Some of these rituals are given great prominence in poor school districts around the country, as there’s fewer schools, fewer things to do on weekends and all, and people who don’t move around as much and have generations who have participated in the same rituals. If we get an alumnus of a “historically Black” college in this thread, you’ll probably hear a lot about bands; some of the best American bands and drum squads come from these schools, see the new movie ‘Drumline’.
I don’t think it would be my bag–gimme hanging out in the West Village rather than a football stadium–but sometimes I’m jealous of how much fun it looks!
Finally, thanks for answering questions about the British school system. Speaking of stereotypes: I always thought y’all had to take a test at 14 that determined the rest of your lives! The rich and brilliant would go on to languish with teddy bears in beautiful, homoerotic-pervaded ivy-covered universities, while 90% would be marched right to the coal mines or the sculleries! 