Oh, Miss Gretchen, PLEASE share some more with us!!
I once had a roommate whose standards were just not high enough. She came from a dysfunctional family and was eager to get married and have kids (or just have kids) so she could “do it right,” … fix everything her parents had done wrong. She was dating or engaged to this guy … I don’t know his story, but she referred to him as a “hillbilly,” and he was indeed unfamiliar with some social niceties.
They broke up (I had been trying to talk her out of marrying this guy), and one day when she was gone he came by to get some stuff that belonged to him. I did not feel safe letting him in the door, so I talked to him through the door, telling him that Beth wasn’t home and that he’d have to come by later. This answer was not acceptable to him and he kept knocking at the door to be let in.
Now, he and I BOTH know that he’s there, and that I know that HE’S there, and I have explained to him why I’m not letting him in. But he kept knocking … nine or ten rapid knocks, followed by about twenty seconds of silence, then another nine or ten knocks … over and over and over.
Well, I had to get ready for work at my evening job, so I went in the bathroom for a shower (the bathroom was at the other end of the apartment from the front door, so I couldn’t hear whether he was knocking from inside the bathroom with the door shut). I come out about twenty minutes later … and he’s STILL doing his knocking, pause, knocking routine. I went to the door and looked through the peephole … and he had his arm over it so that I couldn’t see out! As if that would make someone MORE likely to open a door! As if I don’t already KNOW who it is!
Finally my roommate came home; she tried to tell him to get lost … but he just would not, could not “back down,” I guess. We ended up calling the police, and the police officer acted as an intermediary while Beth went and got the stuff the guy had come for. Thankfully, we never saw him again.
Beth apologized for his behavior, and she said she couldn’t believe she had been considering marrying this guy. She said where he came from, if you go to someone’s house and he isn’t at home, you’re supposed to let the guy in and let him wait for the person … as long as it takes for the person to show, I guess. Apparently, he wasn’t really dangerous; just someone with a different sense of appropriate behavior and very poor communication skills.