My boyfriend and I got engaged recently, and we’re VERY excited about it.
We’ve planned a wedding for August. We want only a couple of witnesses, and we’ve reserved a cabin right on the shore of Lake Superior. All very lovely, and exactly what we both want. I should add that reservations for cabins fill up VERY quickly for summer, and we lucked into this reservation at the exact cabin we wanted at the exact time we wanted (full moon) due to a cancellation. We also plan to host a relaxed party in lieu of a reception a week or two later.
Onto the dilemma: my mom and sister can’t come. They will be in Yellowstone at the time for a trip that’s been locked into place since before the wedding plans came along. I had the dates wrong for their plans, and booked the cabin smack dab in the middle of their travel.
Both Mom and my sister very much want to be there for the ceremony, and don’t view being there for the reception as important. My fiance and I want to keep the ceremony tiny – it’s a second marriage for both of us, and the important thing to us is simply that we will be married. His oldest brother and sister-in-law will be witnesses on his side, and a dear friend of mine will be the witness on my side. All that is perfectly fine with me.
Mom and my sister are pushing for us to reschedule; if we do, it will mean having the wedding in less predictable weather at a different location and involving much more of a headache than we want. If we don’t reschedule, I will have hurt their feelings and will myself feel that I’ve left them out of an important event.
Your opinions? What would you do? I am feeling very torn, and so is my honey.