Prior to answering these questions, I’ll relate the experience I’ve had with attempting to explain to theists what I actually think.
Theist friends of mine have read what I think in copious dissertations of mine, wherein I took great pains to explain my lack of theistic belief. Despite my best efforts, they still insist on some basic things:
I want to live an easy life, and religion makes life harder.
I want to live without a moral code. (Because I’m depraved and inherently evil)
I want to avoid punishment by claiming God doesn’t exist.
I am in a state of rebellion, knowing in my heart that God exists but doing everything I can to deny Him.
These things they insist on have less to do with me, and more to do with a tendency I call “transferrence,” whereby a person unable to accept that different people think differently insists on placing their OWN motivations into other people’s heads, and then interpreting others’ actions by running their own thoughts through an “effect/cause” machine. I emphasize that I call it “transferrence” because I’m not aware if there’s a more accurate term for this tendency/behavior. I don’t have any training in psychology.
Reality, on the other hand, is that I can’t ‘avoid’ something that isn’t there, nothing about life is ‘easy’ no matter what belief system you are under, and morals come from a combination of instinct and externally imprinted values, are different for different people, and have only a few ‘absolutes’ most sane people agree on, and I hesitate to call anything absolute, as a scientific method kind of guy.
Having said that, and having learned that no amount of explaining this has ever changed a theist’s mind, I’ll go on answering these questions.
"Why are you an atheist?"
I’ve come to see the religion I happened to be exposed to as a child as no different than religions from other times, regions and cultures. They all sought to explain our origins and things which weren’t understood. When I examined my own religion more closely, as well as these other religions I had discovered, I realized they were all the same, all insisting theirs was the right one, all with just as many reasons and justifications as to how and why the others were wrong and theirs was right. When I confronted my religious leaders about this similarity and how to reconcile the differences between my religion and others (if it were even possible), I was told that I was “chosen,” that I was somehow blessed and special to have been born in the region I was born, from the parents who had me, and even the country in which I was born, because my religion taught that my country was the future seat of Zion, and that people being born “during this dispensation” were “Latter Day Saints.” Guessed my religion yet? I owe this status to the ‘fact’ that during the ‘War in Heaven,’ I was a particularly valiant soldier on the side of Christ, who had a plan for us that I bought into wholeheartedly, before ‘the veil’ was pulled over my memory of such events and I was thrust into this cold world as a squalling infant. Yay, me, I guess. I’m reminded of the movie, Defending Your Life, in which people in Heaven waiting for their trials were able to visit a place where they could see their past lives-- had I done this, I might have had a glimpse into my War in Heaven heroics. Pity.
Aaaanyway, having come to this realization, the next step was to look for alternatives. Science (the process, not the thing) was there as a tool for finding out what reality actually IS. I’d been primed as a religious child to see science as an adversary that was in the business of coming up with things to tear me away from God. That was its purpose-- on the outside, it seemed to be about simply gathering evidence and going where the evidence takes one, but nooooo, in reality it was placed in the world by Satan to attract the sharpest minds and draw them in the wrong direction. So as I started reading all these evil science books, I remember feeling guilty and rebellious, as if I was doing something wrong and dirty. Church leaders tried to dissuade me from this view, pretending to be perfectly fine with science and technology in all areas where it did not threaten their worldview. Where it DID, however, said leaders offered me alternatives like creation ‘science.’ I quickly saw these things as anything BUT science. The damage was done, and the more I read and investigated and learned, the farther I found myself from feeling at home in any church.
"People across all kinds of cultures and throughout histories have religions, and many of them are pretty similar. Doesn’t that suggest they’re on to something?"
It suggests they are all human, with the human need for explanations, parental figures, moral codes, and assurances that this life isn’t all there is, with the promise of eternal life and even rewards if you behave yourself. The difference arose because of variances between cultures, but the basic premise is the same. A super-being created everything and should be worshipped.
My skeptical nature demands that I be suspicious of religion BECAUSE it is so popular. I don’t just jump on the wagon. I ask WHY so many have jumped on it.
"Did something happen to you to make you an atheist?"
I read a lot. I’m honest with myself about myself. I know what my fears and weaknesses are, and make no excuse for them. I see religion for what it is. I had to be all of these things to overcome indoctrination from childhood. I wish everyone else could stop choosing what to believe based on what feels good and accept things based on evidence and reason, and NOT because the alternative (that there’s “nothing to believe in,” or that “this is all we have”) is so abhorrent to them. To me, truth is more important than “What I want.”
"Are you angry at god?"
Nothing to be angry at, here.
"Do you hate religion?"
I’m angry at men who use the idea of god (and the knowledge that most people need to believe there is one) and the basic tenets of religions to commit terrible acts-- against humanity, against children, against fearful people who need a life coach. I’m angry that they take people’s money. I’m angry that the hope they give to people is false.
"Do you think religion is evil?"
No, not in the sense that a person can be evil. I think religion is a phenomenon that arises from needs we have, and that it can be understood and countered instead of followed.
"Do you think religious people are stupid?"
No, and this is one of the most frustrating aspects of religion for me. I think many religious people are ignorant, NOT stupid. I just wish they would read more. I wish they would educate themselves.
It frustrates me to think that people rely on evidence and courts of law to determine most things that are difficult to determine (as in the realm of justice), but are able to suspend that disbelief when it comes to religious claims. I think there’s no evidence for miracles or dieties, but these same people have somehow loosened their critical thinking rigor when it comes to accepting certain wild claims as evidence for things they WANT to believe.
"Do you think religion should be stamped out or banned?"
No. I would rather people CHOOSE not to be religious.