As a straight, late 50’s male, I don’t judge another bloke on his sexuality, I either like him as a person or I don’t. I had a gay workmate for a few years, nobody knew except me and one other. It was his story to tell. When he did come out, several of our colleagues were stunned because I had a rep as a bogan and likely homophobe (when I wasn’t) and when they realised that we’d been mates for ages and I knew he was gay, it destroyed their tiny minds.
People should take you on face value as a person. You’re either a person they like, or not. Anyone who doesn’t like you just because of your sexuality isn’t someone you want in your life anyway.
Swap the sexes in your statement, and you have how I feel about men. I ended up getting married and having a child because I didn’t really know what asexuality was, and my ex wanted these things so much. I actually did want to have a child so I’m certainly not unhappy about that part of it.
Other people’s sexuality seems to only confuse me. They can do whatever they want as long as they understand I’m probably not into it.
I didn’t read very much of the thread but I think I am in the overwhelming majority when I say I really don’t think anything at all. Back in the 90s, my wife’s best friend in the translation bureau she worked for was openly gay and talked about his SO often. So what? Even had he been straight, it wouldn’t have worried me.