What do you think about recording sex sessions?

And tell that lawyer in you to remove himself immediately, at least until you can record him entering you, and exactly how he gained entry, with what consent, etc.

Without reading any other posts first:

It’s highly slimy and unethical, for one.

In many states (including mine), it’s illegal to record someone’s voice without their consent. I assume (but IANAL) that it is illegal to record video of someone naked without their consent here, if not everywhere. If it’s not, it should be. Therefore, I do not believe that the video evidence he had of the encounter would be admissible in court. Telling her of its existence may have been valuable in getting the woman in question to drop the charges, but admitting to her that he taped their encounter without her consent could easily open him up to another lawsuit.

Additionally, if the cameras do not have voice capture, then there is no surefire way to determine whether the sex was rape. People consensually tie one another up and struggle. Or she could have been too drunk to consent. Or he could have plied her with drugs that wouldn’t knock her out entirely, but make her appear to be “consenting enough.”

Which would still be a lot better than a rape charge.

Which is why lawyers advise men that they shouldn’t engage in bondage games with a woman even if she consents, he’s leaving himself open to charges.

By who? I know a lot of people, I’ve never heard anyone say this.

I also know a lot of lawyers. A quick poll of the one in the living room indicates that lawyers don’t normally dispense sex advice.

Eye of the beholder, I guess. Once the story gets out (and it will), other women who’ve had sex with him may come forward. One invasion of privacy suit is probably better (in the guy’s opinion) than one rape charge. How about 10 invasion of privacy suits, the loss of friends, family shunning him, community shunning him, and the future complete inability to get laid again?

In fairness, a quick call to another lawyer friend yielded, and I quote, “The kind of lawyer who’ll snort blow off a hooker’s ass with you would TOTALLY advise that.”

I’ve gotten into heated arguments with people claiming that on this board.

Unless asked, and in this legal climate yes what kind of sex you have is a legal issue for a man.

One rape charge will do that.

No, a rape conviction would do that. If you think being charged with rape means his friends and family and community will shun him, you must live in a nice fantasyland (PM me the address, k?).

Holy crap, I’ve been doing this sex thing all wrong. Apparently, I should have been accusing men of rape for fun and profit!

Seriously dude, false accusations of rape certainly happen, but not often enough for even the Times to peg it as a “trend” along the lines of fake anime eye contact lenses. Take a deep breath and join us in the world, where the people live.

It’s called “America”; easy enough to find on a map. And yes, the bare accusation is enough to ruin a man’s life.

According to you. Of course, you are a woman so you have no reason to fear it happening to you; why not downplay the problem?

I’m not downplaying it, I’m putting it in proportion. Prove to me that I’m wrong, and this is a pressing issue for a significant number of people.

By the way, and I’m not being snarky here, I’m genuinely curious, who? Because if it’s one (or more) of our resident crazies, that kinda doesn’t count.

Has anyone in your actual life ever said that it’s reasonable for a woman to regard all men as potential rapists?

And one study indicates that half of all accusations are false. I don’t know how things are in America, but over here an accusation of rape is incredibly serious. The guy will likely lose his job. And mud sticks.

That certainly is one study. One tiny, nearly twenty year old study, that most scientists look askance at, and I’ve only ever seen cited by people with a very clear agenda, who hope that whomever they mention it to won’t notice that it’s tiny and nearly twenty years old, and the results have never been anything remotely like duplicated.

Not for 37% of Americans.

Which reflexively means 50% of all rape accusations are legit – therefore, even false reports must be taken seriously. Police aren’t psychic, you know.

Oh, please, that’s hardly the only study showing large numbers of false accusations for rape and child molestation. I recall one from the FBI showing that 65% of men in jail on rape charges physically could not be guilty; either DNA tests proved it, or they were demonstrably somewhere far away when the crime occurs.

And why wouldn’t there be lots of false accusations, given that there’s no downside for the woman, the prevalence of hatred and disdain women in our culture have towards men, and that false accusations are outright encouraged by some feminists and divorce lawyers? Like the practice of photographing your husband bathing your children so you can accuse him of being a child molester - he’s touching naked kids! - if you end up divorcing him. Why not falsely accuse a man since after all, him being a man you “know” he’s scum anyway?

If you recall it, then find it and link to it. The only FBI stat I’ve seen puts unfounded accusations at something like 6%.

The rest of your post makes you sound like Andrea Dworkin if she’d had a penis.

Then you don’t recall Dworkin very well.

No link?

Oh fine, I’ll do it.
That is a list of all men exonerated post conviction of rape by DNA evidence.

It’s quite a few men. I’m pleased for each of them.

It’s certainly not anything remotely approaching 65% of convicted rapists.

In other words, you’re making shit up.