I turned 36 this year, not exactly ancient but no longer young, either. I am just starting to feel the beginnings of joint pains in my knees, barely. That’s to be expected, I suppose.
Unexpectedly – just because I never consciously pondered it – my sex drive is also much lower than in my teens and 20s, and it’s a huge relief. I’m much happier and calmer when not pining over some random lady or another. Other small, unexpected things: My vision stabilized enough to get Lasik, and I finally know what life is like not needing glasses (after 30 years). I get “sir” ed a lot more frequently, even though I still get carded when buying alcohol. Bar patrons seem more like kids than potential mates now. Most of my coworkers now, when I enter new jobs, are younger (and smarter!). I can spend a few hours without looking at my phone, and find it calming instead of anxious. I enjoy trees and plants a lot more, and observe insects instead of panicking. Discovered a new love of martial arts. Booze is less appealing. Capitalism and wealth accumulation and retirement seem even less important now than they were in my youth. Depression (from covid) is both more acute and more manageable, and emotions generally are easier to handle. And so on and so forth. It’s nice to start feeling a bit like an adult
What was the experience like for you? What of it did you expect, and what caught you off guard?