What a great debate.
Those in the, “lying is always wrong, although sometimes it is the less of two evils” camp will want to have a more restrictive definition of lying: i.e. there must be an intent to deceive. Ok, maybe I’m just describing myself. I’m all for ARL’s stance on candor. One reason why I don’t like lying is that I usually find it unnecessary: while I don’t like to lie, diversions such as changing the subject or being intentionally ambiguous are acceptable to me.
“Does this make me look fat?”
A) I dunno. (Most honest, in my case.)
B) If pressed, I’ll stare, think about it and say something like, “Hm, I’ve heard horizontal stripes are problematic”.
“I’m not a liar, you’re stupid”.
Tricky. If I’m with an associate, I’ll typically keep delivering the ludicrousness until my counterpart understands. The point of practical jokes, after all is not exactly to fool the person, it’s to make their eyes become very wide.
“What if you’re faced with an organization bent on deception (eg brand advertising) and which makes no enforceable commitment not to misuse your information?”
You could go elsewhere. (China? ) But I say, “Retaliate”. Whether or not the person at the desk understands your joke (and I think they do, they’re just doing their job), it is the responsibility of the organization to catch such obvious signals. If they can’t, tough luck. I realize that this stance implies some moral imperfection on my part, but I believe that to be appropriate when operating in the corporate marketplace. If the organization exhibits unusually high level of integrity or honesty, then my stance would probably be different.