If we’re going to attach blame to lies, we need to consider advantage. If a store demands our address, we decline. If we lose out on a sale because of it, we reserve the right to disinform them to protect our interests (not pursue them), since we did not want to give them a clear advantage (by mailing advertisements) or voluntarily become an unjust exception. If such a scenario really existed, the store would be in the wrong, and we would merely be correcting or discouraging it.
If someone puts a gun to your head to force a confession, you disinform, because to tell the truth would be to become part of their crime (enable it) and to surrender advantage, which would be a self-deception if you told them what they didn’t deserve to hear (you extended them trust for no good reason).
Again, lying has little to do with information (a supply-side object), which is problematic beyond words (what is “the” truth anyway?). It is all about requiring or demanding belief, so the liar is usually the person demanding that the “truth” be told unjustly–ie, demanding to be lied to because we don’t trust them with the truth.
Bill Clinton became party to dishonesty the moment he agreed to answer private questions, yes or no. He could not trust us because we did not trust him. We both became liars, but we were first, and our lie was to self-righteously force him to lie to protect himself. We made no social contract to protect his job if he told the truth, it was a trap.
Demand-side lying excludes intent, mistakes, jokes, and self-defense situations. Intent is a sticky word. We only intend something to happen by the outcome, and someone’s intent cannot be measured before the fact and subliminal drives confuse the entire issue. Liars usually deceive others with intent to deceive, no question, but who really fooled the fool but themselves? Who had the best intentions in a fake deal to sell political influence, for instance–the liar of the lied to?
The old addage applies: One cannot demand trust, one earns it, and it is freely given, for better or worse. We may be lied to, but we can’t reserve the right to blame the other side, any liar can do that as well.