What is the difference between an excuse and an explanation?

I dunno, but the last place I worked at had people questioning everything I did, if it was REMOTELY different from the way they did it. It’s a very dynamic, confusing office, with people switching desks and responsibilities so often it was really kind of ridiculous. So you were often learning a new desk, or training someone on yours.
One of the most AWESOME statements ever made by someone training me on their desk was “Ok, this is how I do it. You are probably going to figure out your own way to do it, but for now I’ll show you this, and you can adjust it however you want.”

And one of the most IRRITATING things I ever heard was one lady who wouldn’t stop bugging me about having a light on, those little flourescent, built-in-to-the-desk desk lights, that were at EVERY desk. “Why do you need a light on? I don’t need a light. You’re wasting electricity.” Every, single, day. For no reason, and appropos of nothing except that hey, she has a light on.

I finally told her I had cataracts, and she shut the fuck up about it. I do have cataracts, but I was so exasparated by the time I said it that it came out rather loudly and people around me were laughing. :stuck_out_tongue:

I don’t want to hear it.

Because it’s none of my business. You are doing an excellent job in that disaster zone, and you don’t complain about all the kitten pictures I have in my office, so we’re even.

I am beginning to think the difference between “excuse” and “explanation” is the tolerance of the person using the word.

An excuse is an explanation that seeks to deflect blame. Not all explanations are excuses, but all excuses are a kind of explanation.

An explanation: My office is a mess because I have a high tolerance for clutter and it doesn’t interfere with my productivity.

This isn’t an excuse because it not like you’re not blaming the mess on an external factor; rather, you’re attributing it to a personality trait that you have.

An excuse: My office is a mess because I have way too much work and too little time to clean it up.

This is an excuse because you’re blaming the mess on external circumstances. The implication is that the issue has nothing to do with you, but rather something beyond your control.

An excuse can be valid or invalid. I mean, if it’s true, then how it could it not valid?

But you COULD have way too much work and too little time. That could be just as valid an explanation.

To move from the office to home:
It takes me just as long to dust the bookcases whether I do it daily, weekly, monthly, or only when I have guests coming over. Why on earth would I waste the time necessary to do that daily?

Chiming in to reiterate that an excuse is meant to absolve blame, and an explanation simply explains why or how things happened.

I think many of these answers put way too much emphases on blame when the emphases is elsewhere, blame and blame shifting as I see it does not enter into it. The primary example is being excused from jury duty. You give a excuse, such as you are entitled to a postponement at the first notice, and you are excused from the task and there is no blame.

An excuse is a appeal to power or mercy over the authority that is ordering the task. In the above example the state authority grants a higher power ‘right’ to be excused from jury duty. A simular situation is the excuse that you are talking care of a elderly person who needs full time care and are asking to be excused from jury duty, this is a excuse with a appeal to mercy.

An explanation in the judy duty sense is a reason that you are willing to complete the task but without expected results. I knew someone who got out of jury duty by her belief that she could tell guilt by looking at the person’s shoes, yes really and there was some truth to this as far as she believed it. This is a explanation, not a excuse, that she would perform her task but she could not do it to the standards they were presenting, and it is up to them to accept her humanness on the case or not.

In my own life I had sort of a hybrid of the 2. It was a death penalty case, and when given the opportunity to state any excuses or explanations I stated that because of my faith in Lord Jesus who does not condemn me I will not condemn this man. Which at first I would place it as a explanation that regardless of the facts my mind was made up which way to find him, but the judge excused it under freedom of religion, which was a appeal to a higher power or in other words that the judge found that I had the right to walk away from this case.

So when I hear the term ‘no excuses’ it doesn’t make any sense as a directive, because excuses come from higher then the person’s authority and the person has the right to be excused, though it can mean no appeal to mercy will be accepted.

Also to use another thread, in a military setting if a truck got stuck in the mud you may hear ‘we need every swinging dick out on the road to get this truck out’ ordered by a officer, which you may get:
1 - a excuse to authority, ‘Sir the general and I have a standing lunch date and I went there instead’ - there is no blame, just the regular order of authority
2 - a excuse to mercy, ‘Sir I was heading to my wife to have sex, we are trying to conceive’ - could be blame if no mercy was extended but hope and appeal to human kindness
3 - a explanation, ‘Sir we were doing some DBSM in the barrack and I was unable to get out of my restraints’ - No righteous blame for not being there because there was no way to do that, it was impossible, but there may be blame for getting into the situation.

There are excuses, and then there are excuses. If you really want to be pedantic, an excuse is an explanation or extenuating circumstance that legitimately excuses the action or inaction. Colloquially, however, “excuse” is frequently used to mean an explanation that isn’t really an excuse.

It’s just quicker and easier to say “that’s just an excuse” than it is to say “there is no explanation that could possibly excuse your behavior, so don’t waste your time and mine by trying to pretend there is.”

Well, if you’re hearing the phrase, ‘No Excuses!’, a lot, on your job, I’d say chances are someone sees you as an excuse maker. (It’s a good thing to notice, good for you!)

For me, the difference between an explanation and an excuse is ownership. Excuses are the lamest when they contain no ownership. You don’t have to like every choice you make, that’s okay, but you do have to own up to every choice you make.

In speaking with the ‘no excuses!’ person, it could prove very productive if you always took time, to frame your comments, around your personal ownership, (however small it may seem), in events as they unfolded.

A couple of things could happen, firstly the person could hear your ownership and stop thinking you’re just a lame excuse maker, (a good thing regardless!), and you could see with new eyes your ownership in events that seemed out of your control or mere circumstance. Perhaps even to the extent that less excuses are required!

I don’t associate excuses with being lame or trying to dodge responsibility.

E.g., “I was late since my car wouldn’t start.” is an excuse (and an explanation).

But: “I was late since I forgot to put gas in my car.” is not an excuse, but is an explanation.

But note how a person might say the first when the second is true. So you gotta know more if you want to get fussy about things.

Uh…no. No one would ever accuse me of being an excuse-maker. I just got to thinking about this while doing some house-cleaning.

I know someone who is an excuse-maker, though, and it does drive me crazy. But I think it’s because she’s also a complainer. That’s an awful combination.

That’s pretty much how I see it.

My suspicion would be that he’s being sarcastic because he’s irritated over people bugging him over irrelevancies. Next time he might comment “it’s because the fairies come in and mess things up when I’m not looking”.

In my experience, when you hear “No excuses!” a lot at work, it means management will not develop effective programs or provide adequate resources.

In fact, I think “No excuses” is just one big excuse the PTB gives itself.

It’s very simple: I give explanations. You give excuses!

I was being trained for a job once, and when I’d screw up my trainer (who was a HORRIBLE trainer) would get this shitty condescending thing going. I would explain why I made the decision I did to try to deflect her attitude that I was an idiot.

So, I got counseled for making excuses. It’s not an excuse, bitch, I’m explaining to you the train of thought that led to that decision. If you were worth a shit as a supervisor or trainer, you would use the information I just gave you to discuss the situation and make a valid teaching point.

I ended up kicking about 7 kinds of ass at that job, and she never really forgave me for it.