Hypothetical question based on a real incident:
A close female friend doesn’t want a child. She becomes pregnant despite the use of normally effective birth control. The pregnancy is most likely doomed because of a medical condition the woman has which was discovered when she became pregnant. The fetus would not be likely to come to term, and there is a significant risk to the woman’s health. The woman has an abortion as recommended by all of her doctors.
You are conversing with the woman and she says, “The poor little thing didn’t have a chance, and that’s tragic.”
You would then say… ?
Saying, “Yes, that’s tragic” seems to suggest (at least to me) that she should be feeling bad about her decision. I don’t consider a miscarriage tragic for the embryo/fetus, just for the mother. Same for traumatic abortions. I know some people might consider them all tragic, but is it tactful to say so?
Contradicting her seems to be rude and to belittle her pain.