In the late 80’s or early 90’s I read a fiction novel about gender reversed society. It wasn’t a fantasy or sci-fi novel, or set on some other planet, etc. The protagonist of the book was a male, but was timid, shy , etc. I can’t recall the character’s name, but it wasn’t a strong masculine name but more diminutive like “Dickey”. The book was written as somewhat of a satire. And for some reason I recollect that it was written by a popular author. I don’t believe that it was newly published when I read it, as I checked it out of the library where I lived back then.
I do recall one scene where that in order for procreation, many women would force men to ejaculate using prostate massage.
Could be, I did read that whole trilogy as an impressionable teen (with questionable tastes in literature). Var the Stick, Sos the Rope, Neq the Sword. Lordy, he did crank them out.
Was it Regiment of Women by Thomas Berger?* I would classify it as science fiction myself, but tastes differ.
*Probably best known for Little Big Man, which was made into a movie with Dustin Hoffman. He also wrote Neighbors, which became a John Belushi/Dan Aykroyd movie. I found his Arthur Rex – a sex-and-violence retelling of the stories of King Arthur – a hoot, even though nobody’s filmed it.