I’m seriously considering a vasectomy after trusting my last partner and getting burned pretty badly.
Actually, it is a personal choice I have made for myself based on morals, experience and getting my head together after a divorce.
Funny thing, since deciding this, I’ve had several oppotunites for casual encounters that I’d have been all over in the past but now politely decline. Go figure.
I didn’t quite understand the mouse-thing, though.
I switched to Tri-Sprintec from Yasmin when I was facing the option of not having insurance in the near future. I’m still in insurance status limbo, but the $7/month that might turn into $29/month is much better than $20/month that’d turn into $100/month without insurance. I think my body has finally finished readjusting, six months later, as I haven’t had a horrific bout of PMS. Instead of my usual (this past six months :eek: ) crying jag, bloating, and eating everything in sight, I got sore boobies and craved salty foods and lots of water. Vast improvement.
Generally the pill, except when she forgets to get her prescription refilled, then it’s condoms for a while until she gets back on track.
Burned in which way, if you don’t mind me asking? Did she catch pregnant? Or did you find out she had been cheating on you?
Being an insufferable jackass has always worked for me.
She’s pregnant and due to mistruths, lies, and actions I’ve since caught her in, I’m convinced it was intentional despite her supposedly being on birth control and agreeing with me that children were something neither of us was interested in.
Well, we plan on having another child, so Mrs. Small is on the pill for now, and when she becomes a mother for the second time, I believe I’m off to the vet for getting fixed.
Of course, that doesn’t help your situation much, Mouse.
Brendon Small
Being gay has worked well for me.
Yikes. I’m sorry, man.
Infertility. Before that (well, before we knew about it), the pill.
Thanks. I’ve had a couple months to get used to it and have come to terms with the idea of being a father, though I still can’t stand to look at her and don’t want her to be a part of my life at all. I really have no clue what I’ll do if or when she gives birth.
Every now and then I hear about a guy getting oopsed. How can a woman possibly think that that would be a good idea? Great. You’ve got a baby. And a husband that will resent and mistrust you for the rest of your life.
It’s scummy to be sure. But I feel that if a man really, really doesn’t want a baby, he should be using a method of birth control himself, regardless of what the woman does (or says she does). Why take that chance? Also, if you never want a baby, why not get a vasectomy?
This is not a sexist thing. I’m a woman, and I never want children. So I would not rely on any man, no matter who he was, to use a birth control method reliably. I use an effective method on my own, regardless of what he’s doing.
I don’t understand the decision-making process here.
Me too (the celibacy, not the condoms). It sucks, but it does work.
Back when I had a sex life I really liked my IUD, Mouse Maven - I would definitely look into that.
I have found, though, that as I get older and bitchier, the number of people I actually want to have naked fun time with has decreased, so while it still sucks, it’s not as bad as I had thought it would be.
Involuntary celibacy sucks, but it does work as far as contraception goes.
Regular pills don’t agree with my body, and the POPs kinda did but there was one major problem I had with them; my periods were late. Like, two or three weeks late. It scared me and my now-ex but good.
Right now I figure my best options are either getting myself fixed, or an IUD, though I know getting one of those when you haven’t had a baby can be tricky. I don’t want to tinker with my hormones again. Another thing is that my cycles are finally getting back to normal, something like six months after going off the POPs due to the end of the relationship. I know that sort of thing happens to a lot of women, but it really sucks, having been predictable for years and years.
Really, has this ever resulted in anything but a single mother and a bitter (or disappeared) father? I think if I were a guy, I’d pay to store some sperm then get a vasectomy. Not that women are the only ones screwing with BC to manipulate their partners…
Stupidity, misplaced trust, and inexperience, pretty much. I’ve only had five partners and either used protection or didn’t have sex that could lead to procreation with the other four – all the rest were short-term adventures with friends – and just stupidly believed her when she told me she didn’t want anything serious (only to realize later she was just parroting my words back to me) so I didn’t use condoms every time. I’m not blaming her entirely and never have but I still hate her for being a lying bitch and possibly hamstringing my future by feeding on my natural trust.
The funny thing is that at least a half-dozen (female) friends warned me that this might happen but I brushed it off, not thinking someone I would be involved with be could be so stupid. Just goes to show that we’re both morons.
IUD. Copper, non-hormonal. In retrospect, I probably could’ve dealt with the low levels of hormones in the Mirena, but at the time I was doing the mental health treatment thing, and birth control always, always affected that.
I don’t need to remember a damn thing (just check every so often to make sure it’s still there). My periods are a lot crappier, though–heavier and crampier. Works well enough so far, though I’ve had sex for one weekend in the entire year since I got it. Sigh.