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Thanks. I’ve had a couple months to get used to it and have come to terms with the idea of being a father, though I still can’t stand to look at her and don’t want her to be a part of my life at all. I really have no clue what I’ll do if or when she gives birth.
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The child’s worth ten of the mother. --Belle Watling, to Rhett Butler, GWTW
Baby-Be-Gone, or Baby-Away.
AKA “the pill”. 
[QUOTE=Aesiron]
Stupidity, misplaced trust, and inexperience, pretty much. I’ve had five partners and either used protection or didn’t have sex that could lead to procreation with the other four and just stupidly believed her when she told me she didn’t want anything serious (only to realize later she was just parroting my words back to me) so I didn’t use condoms every time. I’m not blaming her entirely and never have but I still hate her for being a lying bitch and possibly hamstringing my future by feeding on my natural trust.
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Thanks for the candid answer.
No problem, Q.N. Jones. Blaming her entirely and hiding from my own culpability is just stupid and accomplishes nothing.
[QUOTE=WhyNot]
The child’s worth ten of the mother. --Belle Watling, to Rhett Butler, GWTW
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Ten times zero’s still nil. More seriously, I’m not completely opposed to being a part of the child’s life and do not hold anything its mother did to me against it but I have never wanted children for a multitude of reasons and don’t really know if it would be good for it to have me in its life. Though I’m pretty laisseze-faire overall, I will never be accused of having a particularly warm personality and there’s little to no chance that I’ll be able to hide my bitterness from the child.
I just had the Mirena IUD installed last week. I’m breastfeeding, so I couldn’t take the regular pill, and the idea of the mini-pill made me nervous (we got pregnant very, very easily, and I have reason to believe that I’m already fertile again, even with the round-the-clock breastfeeding of a 3-month-old), so the Mirena was really appealing. The installation was largely painless - some cramping afterward, but nothing worse than menstrual cramps - and we don’t have to worry about a sibling for The Boy for up to 5 years! It is kind of expensive, though, so talk to your doc and then your insurance company to see what they will pay for. My stupid insurance paid for the device itself, out of the “preventive medicine” account, but the installation is only covered after I meet the deductible. Which makes soooo much sense, because the device won’t prevent anything if I just carry it around with me. :rolleyes:
Anyway. We haven’t, um, tested its efficacy yet, but so far I’m pleased with it.
prayer
Yet another vote for gay sex…or lack of even that right now in my case.
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prayer
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Pull and pray seems to work just fine.
Also, you can blow it in her and yell “No baby, no baby, no baby!” That does the trick too.
[QUOTE=lobstermobster]
prayer
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I agree. Nothing wilts a man like Bible verses instead of foreplay. Capital work, lobstermobster!
Other ideas:
Can you get him to speak with an American accent?
or buy him “ReElect Bush Cheney 2004” pajamas?
Train him to say, “No, Hersheys tastes Far better” ?
Give away all his ‘Roots’ gear to a dorm student who really needs to get laid.
Sew a picture of a certain University Administrator onto his touk.
Tattoo an American Flag onto his Johnson.
Of course, he may never get Any Canadian women pregnant, but that’s sort of the idea, right? 
[QUOTE=Lionne]
The pill: Tri-Sprintec, the cheap version of Ortho Tri-Cyclen.
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This is what I am using now… before that, I was using Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo, and I was pretty good about taking it correctly… but not good enough apparently - I had two accidental pregnancies this past year while on it, both which I had to terminate. 
I had been on the pill for 15 years with no “accidents,” then had two in one year. It was very strange to say the least…
So now I am ultra-paranoid. We tried using spermicidal foam, but it gave my partner a stinging sensation. I am thinking about getting a diaphragm and doubling up with the pill, since my doctor does not recommend an IUD for me.
Copper IUD. I don’t do well with hormones, and it didn’t make my period MUCH worse. I’ve had it since 2003 (I was 25 when it was put in), have never had children, and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made for my reproductive health.
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Copper IUD. I don’t do well with hormones, and it didn’t make my period MUCH worse. I’ve had it since 2003 (I was 25 when it was put in), have never had children, and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made for my reproductive health.
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Is the heavier period/worse cramps a temporary side effect?
I had a Mirena IUD installed on the first of this month. I required the hormonal method because my own hormones are raging bitches that need to be smacked down. Having never been pregnant, it was a bit uncomfortable to put in, but certainly nothing unbearable (since you’ve had a mousling, your discomfort would probably be minimal.) There were some cramps, but nothing worse than menstrual cramps… I was back to work the next day with just some OTC painkiller.
Things are almost back to normal. I can lift heavy things and bend over, and have a strong urge to start exercising. I’ve yet to give it a test drive, but this is in my weekly plans! I have had some bad cramping after orgasm, and spotting of course, but those things are considered absolutely normal during the first 1-2 months. And the period I had a couple weeks ago was short, light, carefree and beautiful. (Usually they are heavy and painful, but I had virtually no pain.) I predict nothing but eternal contraceptive happiness in my future… slated to have it removed in 2012!
Oh, and also, my insurance covered everything, so it was free. Does a happy dance
Got snipped 25 years ago when our youngest was six months old.
None.
My husband and I are (thus far unsuccessfully) attempting to procreate.
Blow jobs
Sheep
Blow up plastic choir boys
The old five fingered shuffle
We don’t use anything. Haven’t done for prolly five years. Lucky up to now.
Having said far too much about marital and sexual relationships in past threads, I decline to circumstantiate the above.
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Blow jobs
Sheep
Blow up plastic choir boys
The old five fingered shuffle
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…and that’s just an average Friday night! 
I’m almost 66 my friend, that is an average 12 months if I’m lucky
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Is the heavier period/worse cramps a temporary side effect?
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It’s gotten better as time has gone on. When I was on hormonal BC, I could get away with regular tampons most of the time, with maybe a super every now and then. Now I’m super plus or ultra for the heaviest, and super is the standard everyday tampon. The cramps are actually not as bad as they were when I was on the Pill, although when I first got the IUD inserted I had twinges for months.
The only problem is that I now get ovarian cysts, when before the hormones were keeping them down. Most of the cysts are totally asymptomatic, but I recently had a 5cm cyst that filled with blood and hurt so bad I ended up in the hospital and missed 3 days of work. That’s just me, though–my doc says that I’ll always be a cyst producer.
Other than that, I now produce normal lubrication and CM (because I ovulate), when before I was as dry as the Sahara. My libido is much improved as well.