I’d say that the ability to pay attention and adjust what they’re doing based on whatever feedback they’re getting is probably paramount. Enthusiasm isn’t good if they’re doing it wrong and not adjusting/getting better.
Closely followed by enthusiasm and adventurousness though.
Yes, absolutely, but I would still put enthusiasm at the top of the list. I don’t think they will be interested in feedback if they are not enthused in the first place!
But yes, for men, it’s definitely LISTEN. I can’t tell you how many men have told me “I’m a great lover, I can go all night long.” Yeah, that’s not what women want, that just sounds painful and uncomfortable, and besides, just because you’re a great lover with Suzie doesn’t mean you’re a great lover. Women are not all cut from the same cloth! You can’t use the same techniques!
I value a quality where I feel the emotional response matches the physical response. The foreplay starts at the begaining of a date or when you wake up in the morning. Tecnique is always nice but no substitute for having your head and your heart in the right place first.
Sleeping with a different lady every night - that is, the acquisition of all those women - has really not much to do with how good of a lover you are. Getting the girl into bed requires different skills than pleasing her in bed.
Someone who would have the guts to stand by you & not let Nostril-Fucks mess with you free of [del]scars[/del] response.
Someone who would use what leverage or power that they had personally to privately and publicly damage anyone who’d try to get off on hurting someone they cared about… even if they had a big face in your industry*.
*ESPECIALLY if they had a Big Face in your industry.