How dare you tell me that I could have prevented my stretch marks!!! How dare you tell me that they’re only something ignorant people without understanding of prevention get? Who the fuck do you think you are? You’re a guy, and you’ve never had a wife or a longtime girlfriend. You don’t have kids, you’re not a doctor nor do you deal with pregnancy in *any * part of your life!!!
WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?!?!?
Wow.
He actually said this and you let him live?
OMG! Who WAS this moron anyway? (echos the previous poster…How could you have let this boy-child live?).
Hun…you should have left the little fucking upstart in numerous broken and bloody pieces around the room. I don’t blame you for being pissed.
What do ya say we all go and kick the shit out of him now?
He’s a guy friend of mine who thinks he knows EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. He lives far away from me which is why he isn’t dead. I doubt he would have made his comments if I had been standing right there.
It all started with
“Stretch marks? Don’t you know that they’re the easiest thing in the world to prevent?”
“There are ways to take care of those, you know. You didn’t have to let pregnancy ruin your body.”
At the time, it really freaked me out and I wondered if he actually knew something I didn’t. After thinking clearly, I realized that he doesn’t know what the hell he’s talking about when it comes to that kind of thing. He’s just an idiot who always wants to sound like he’s more informed than everyone else.
I still consider him a friend, but I’m not over his remarks about my (MILD) stretch marks.
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Ooh, he’s mean. :mad:
While I’m not trying to take that guy’s side men can get stretch marks. After a year of doing nothing but eat, watch tv and smoke my brother ballooned from 80kg to 150 kg so quickly that he’s got these really gross stretch marks all over his belly and back.
I know men can get stretch marks, but this guy has never been even remotely overweight in any way whatsoever. If I thought he knew something about stretch marks, their cause, or their prevention, I wouldn’t have been so angry.
Are you talking to my BIL?? He knows everything about everything.
And precisely how do stretch marks ruin your body? He sounds like the idiot who used to sit in the cubicle next to mine - whining about how his wife was so “fat” after having 3 babies. Some people make an excellent argument for public flogging!!
Maybe it’s just me, but I think there are more important things in life to worry about than stretch marks.
AMEN, FairyChatMom!!!
Seriously, I’m not upset about the stretch marks, it’s the comments that make me nuts!!! Ugh, I don’t want to go into another rant. . .
Well, he’s WRONG and he’s an idiot. They have to do with all sort of “collagen” and “skin” stuff, doctor stuff about which I know lots, but am too lazy too look up cites right at this moment.
However, I feel confident that many fellow doper moms will have that info for you in short order.
In the meantime. My mom is 100% Brit. My sis and I are about 75% (dad is scottish/scandanavian and {I have NO idea how} cherokee). So, do mom and sis have stretch marks from their pregnancies? Heck no. Just me, I’m the only one with skin not “collagen-y” enough. Mom and I are both equally “well-endowed,” does mom have stretch marks? Nope just me (ps. sis got gypped by the boob fairy).
Oh, and guess who used every anti-stretch mark miracle cream known to man while “developing,” both in the boob growing AND baby growing stages? That’s right, me. Did mom or sis? Nope and they are stretch mark free.
Don’t feel bad, they are just one of God’s cruel little jokes.
Vit. E lotion and tanning take care of stretch marks nicely.
Alias, your guy friend is an air-head. That’s all there is to it.
And Brutus – I take it your advice is good for after stretch marks have formed?
Speaking as Alias’ boyfriend (and she is going to kill me for saying this) the stretch marks aren’t that bad, and her body is far from “ruined” She is driving herself nuts over nothing
Yeah, after the marks have faded, you can tan them and they’re nearly invisible. Of course, you can still feel them, but they’re not as obvious.
Yep. There is a specific cream that is supposedly best to use (after the marks have formed.) Errr, ‘enhanced’ weight lifters get stretch marks all the time, and lotion+tanning is generally the solution.
Some of the guys at the gym use some sort of herbal ‘anti-stretch mark’ gel. Dunno if it really works any better then tanning/Vit.E.
Actually, tanning merely diminishes the appearance of stretch marks–it doesn’t “treat” them–and at what price? Over-the-counter lotions might help smooth the skin a bit, but really won’t make a significant difference. There are prescription vitamin A lotions, but they are usually reserved for cases where the marks are still very red after a year or two, they can not be taken during pregnancy, and they will only do so much.
There are also plastic surgery/dermiabrasion techniques that can help, a little. But generally the only course is to wait it out, because they do fade with time.
As for whether you get them in the first place, it’s completely hereditary and out of your control. Somethjng the OP’s know-nothing buddy is obviously ignorant of.
Unless, of course, you can’t tan, like me. But for those who can, yes, it is a pretty good camouflage.
So when I get the resulting skin cancer (half of the adults from my mother’s side of the family has had a form of skin cancer before the age of 40) from an attempt to get a tan, I can say, “Hey, I’ve got a life-threatening disease, but boy, my stretch marks are gone!”
Yep. Hey, its your call. Nobody is shoving anybody into the tanning beds…