Don’t know about asking, but if she accepts take her there in style (as much as you can afford). A horse drawn carriage or something.
Fortune cookie.
Dunno if you have hours or block scheduling at your school, but the guy who asked my sister knew her schedule already so at the beginning of every class he had the teacher present her with a rose from him with a word on paper attached.
Rose 1: Will
Rose 2: you
Rose 3: go
Rose 4: to
Rose 5: prom
Rose 6: with
and at the end of that class (end of the day) he stood outside the classroom door with a big bouquet of roses with the final word “me?” attached. It was a pretty big hit.
I would hire a pilot who specializes in skywriting. Have him write “Surrender Dorothy…and go to prom with me.” This only works if her name is Dorothy.
Also, do you have a friend named PSXer?
Of course he is. He’s already hanging with the cool kids. 
As a teacher, I’d refuse to get involved with something like that.
Ha. My junior year, I asked my girlfriend if we were going to the prom. She answered, “Well, I am.”
I’ll go with, “Just ask her (privately)” as well. Any scheme you come up with is bound to look silly (the rose thing sounds stupid to me, too - sorry) and like you’re trying too hard.
Good luck! Keep us updated!
“Who has two thumbs and is going to prom with you? THIS GUY.”
The guy I went to senior prom with did something very similar. It was cute, and I liked it, but you want to make sure the girl will think it’s fun and cute, not tragically embarrassing.
As a reference point, he did not score, even though his “ask” was cute and sweet. I know. Harsh.
I read about a guy who wrote “Will you go to the prom with me?” on a car. His best friend, a girl, called him and shrieked, “Yes, of course!”
His response? “That was your car? I was asking Jennifer!”
So, like almost everyone else, I recommend just asking her in person.
Yeah, well, the teachers at that school are awesome like that. shrug
If we narrowly define awesome to mean, in this context, “poor enough in judgement to involve themselves in a personal matter between two students that could easily have backfired resulting in both of the students feeling publicly humiliated and the instigator of the scheme feeling emotionally rejected.” Our students are at school to learn, we are there to teach them. We should be friendly to them, but not their friends. There is such a thing as professionalism and they did not display it.
Ouch, snap.
Don’t bring this up while you’re asking.
Oh, get over it, killjoy. Everything worked out and they had a great time. I’m glad the teachers weren’t as pessimistic and distant as you were and apparently had good enough rapport with this young man. Some teachers like to do things like that, go a little bit further for their students rather than sit behid the desk like some automated, boring machine.
The girl said yes, everyone got a positive experience, and many people got a story to share to others. The pure horror! I should call the board of administration to tell them the sheer unprofessionalism displayed by these childish teachers! :rolleyes:
Unless I miss my guess, I’ve been a teacher longer than you’ve been alive, most likely. I’ve spent a lot of that time as a building union representative. Part of my duties in that context is to provide union representation in any situation where a teacher’s actions are questioned by administration or by parents. I’ve gone in to defend coworkers who did or said some entirely innocent thing that got misinterpreted and then blown out of proportion. If I’m pessimistic, it’s for good reason.
Kids are kids. They are emotionally immature and they will not always react the way you think they should. One minute they will act like adults, the next minute you will swear they are still 11 years old. Especially in the last decade, we also have to deal with the helicopter parents who come storming in determined to get somebody fired because their special little snowflake came home upset. They generally aren’t real interested in excuses from school personnel like “It sounded so cute and romantic!”
Teens, their dating scene, and social interactions are a volatile environment. No teacher has any business becoming a part of it.
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Last year there was a sign outside the local high school one morning that said:
*Names may or may not be the actual ones on the sign.
Driving home I saw a girl with a spray paint can decorated with ribbons and stuff painting “Yes!” at the end of the sign. I’m guessing he presented her with the can at some point during the day - it was decorated enough to look like a bouquet.
Sadly, while I found the whole scene utterly heartwarming, I also wondered how much trouble they might have gotten in if they’d been discovered at school with a can of spray paint.
Seriously, if you have reason to expect that she wants to go with you, then a dramatic gesture will be a great story for life. If you are not currently dating this girl then I would strongly advise you to keep it quiet and personal. If she has a friend who knows her locker combo and would be willing to help, maybe just surprise her in the morning with a bouquet of flowers and a note?
Ok so here’s some actual advice.
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Ask her in private. She doesn’t need to be put on the spot in front of people and you really don’t need witnesses if she says no.
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If you’re not already dating this girl, be cool and casual. Grand romantic gestures are for anniversaries, not girls you hardly know.
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You can use a feeler question. Something like “You goin to the prom with anyone?”
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If she says no, you say “We should go together.” I know this seems inconsequential, but use the word “should.” For some reason that works better than “Do you want.” Maybe it plants a positive impression in her head, maybe it makes you seem more confident, but it definitely increases your chances of success.
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Don’t fear rejection. There are billions of other females out there if this one doesn’t work out. The worst thing this girl can do is not go to prom with you and not have sex with you. Which unless I’m missing something, she’s already not doing those things.
How well do you know this girl? If you hardly know her at all you might want to ask her to hang out or something first before you ask her to prom. Prom is a big commitment for a getting to know you date.