He asked if I could come over and destroy his kid’s cell phones. And then said this would be a good time to call in any police contacts I had and get the point across that I didn’t know this was happening, but at the first knowledge sought the appropriate legal remedies.
So do you or do you not have a legal right to sign legal documents as the kid’s guardian? I’m guessing no.
During this thread you’ve referred to the cell phone as belonging to first “the kid”, then you, now apparently the kid again. OK.
[turns around like Columbo] Oh, just one more thing…
Let’s get this straight. Your attorney told you it was a good idea to destroy evidence.
Let’s repeat this: your attorney told you it was a good idea to destroy evidence.
Yeah, I’m out.
Talking with the parents with legal presence would just seem like you’re threatening them, which might make them do the very thing that you’re trying to prevent. And all talk of different culture aside, I think a girl would be more likely to be believed if she cries rape.
Whatever the case may be, ZPG, I hope that you do not do anything too rash. Live and let live.
No, her attorney wants to stop paying his own kids’ cell phone bills, and made a joke about having ZPGZealot get him out from under the problem.
OP, what did your attorney say about the destruction of the evidence that occurred when you smashed your nephew’s cell phone? If he didn’t have anything pertinent to say about something that significant I’d suggest you get another lawyer, toot sweet, because he doesn’t sound like he’s particularly well-equipped to be of much use to you in a case such as you describe.
Also, I have some photos on my cell phone that have never been transmitted ('cos my daughter took them when the phone was hers and I’ve always been too cheap to let her get texting on her prepaid cell phone). Destroying that phone would cause those pics to not exist. Were the pics in question sent to his (excuse me: your :rolleyes:) phone, or taken on the phone and just stored there?
Where does one start?
I feel sorry for Nephew, because his “guardian” is not a responsible adult, nor is his father, and apparently his mother also his a horror of a human being. IMO, the OP is lucky that Nephew has only had sex with a kid his own age. Given his “rearing” or lack thereof, he’s more likely to have turned into a juvenile delinquent.
I feel sorry for Nephew’s girlfriend who surely never signed on for a trip into CrazyTown with Nephew’s guardian.
I actually feel sorry for the OP because to see the world in this way takes a massive amount of energy and time.
And to the OP: you don’t know from WASP. I am a WASP. Guin is correct: white does not equal WASP.
Oh my.
BTW - lol’ed at “nutbaggery.” Consider it stolen.
Teenage stupidity, I have seen girls in this neighborhood do it because they were afraid of their parents or parents in denial that their kids will consent to sex (Nope, they had to have been seduced, drugged, or over powered.). I’d really hate to think that my innocent nephew’s life was ruined because I didn’t act.
Yes, I have the legal right to sign all legal documents pertaining to this kid. Wish I didn’t, but that can’t be altered right now.
Any opinion on this ZPG?
I love how **ZPGZealot **has posted all this information about her nephew committing statutory rape to a *public *message board.
You’ve destroyed the phone, but what happens when the police read* this thread*?
Can I ask you a question? How old are you? And are you yourself in a serious relationship? If so–what does your partner think about this situation? Do you have living parents? If so–what do they say about this situation?
I am a minority and the situation you described seems so alien to me that I am just curious as to what others close to you have to say about this situation. Your view on life as a minority is very different then my view as a minority. Frankly your views on life in general and life between boys and girls is so different then mine-and this coming from the father of a 15 year old daughter.
I wish you well but in my opinion if you escalate this to a criminal matter you (or I should say your nephew) will come out on the losing end. I would think twice and even three times before you involve the law.
That if we need it, we can probably get enough restored from the battered carcass and that while he understands the impulse, I should save any more sexually explicit communication from the girl. As far as I could tell the pics in question where sent to the phone Nephew X was allowed to use.
I think that’s what lawyers are for. Better to have legal representation from the beginning than plan catch-as-can after someone else like a teacher, healthcare worker, a friend’s parent, etc, reports that underage kids are having sex and that there are nude photos of the girl.
Closer to 50 than 40, I have been married to current husband over two decades. He has less regard for the rule of law than me and his people in Montenegro and Serbia handle things like this with violence. My parents are not living, but I fairly certain their solution would be, “Sixteen year old boys like sex, so arrange his marriage with one of friends’ daughters, so we don’t have problems with strangers or police”. Most of our family and friends say about this situation, “If the girl gets pregnant or her family causes problems, send your nephew away finishing high school, going on to college, etc. aren’t that important.”
Has it taken this long for someone to mention the OP is Roma? That explains like, at least 95% of the opinions and viewpoints expressed.
There is no false accusation involved. Nephew X is below the age of consent in the state we live in. He cannot legally consent to sex. I inform the appropriate legal authorities that underage sex has occurred and that I, the adult who is suppose to be looking out for him, intend to take appropriate measures (stricter curfews, no cell phone, no unsupervised guests, no car priviledges. etc.) to keep the kid within the bounds of the law. I am not letting him run wild. I am not turning a blind eye. If the girl’s parents want to claim later that their “innocent baby” was ruined by that juvenile delinquent, we have a paper trail that contradicts them.
Do you have ANY evidence that they might do so? Because you better be damned sure before you start spewing out accusations.
And again – what is your definition of a “WASP”?
(Oh, and since this girl sent him the photos – they still exist)
Have you told your lawyer that you admitted to destroying evidence and possibly accusing that poor girl of rape just so you could get first licks in on a public message board?