Sounds like you already decided what to do, so why did you bother posting a thread titled “What would you do?” You KNOW what you’re going to do and why, you’ve already rationalized your decision, so you don’t care about other people’s opinions.
You just wanted yet another opportunity to parade your mental illness in front of an audience.
I feel more sorry for the girl, who had no idea when she started what she thought was a consensual sexual relationship that she was going to get pulled into some lunatic’s paranoid delusions that may end up ruining her life.
I talked to Nephew X (technically he’s not my son, but I am the one responsible for him) about this a lot. He claims they have always used condoms (Please, please let that be true). He also claims that they just couldn’t wait until they were of legal age (wanted to throttle him at that). I hope the girl’s parents do not know. I haven’t talked to them about this.
As for the “where do you live question” in an earlier thread she answered Texas Gulf Coast, assuming she hasn’t moved in the past year (post war from Jan 5 2010).
You don’t get it. Age of consent laws tend to have some nuance to them. In order to get an idea if this is even illegal it is necessary to know which state it is in. Supposedly it is in a state that has an AOC of 17. But that is not the whole story. The law in that state might be more complicated than what is listed in an article about the AOC in all 50 states. I know the law in NJ. The age is generally 16 here. But there are exceptions depending on the ages of those involved. I have a feeling that both of these 16 year olds are not considered rapists by anyone. Even if they are shaking the fuck out of each others hands.
The cellphone thing is actually valid. Naked pictures under 18 are illegal even if they were taken by the subject.
Actually, the girl knew going into this that she was too young to legally consent to sex. She knew the risk and she took them. You know for someone how is suppose to be a psychologist, you’re not good at reading people. You would never make it working the tarot cards. A feel sorry for your patients, you must tell them their all paranoid lunatics’s for worrying about their problems. I started the thread because the attorney’s advice really scared me. In his eyes we need to immediately get ready to fight a statutory rape charge.
Actually, she didn’t know the risks. She didn’t know that she was going to end up entangled in the paranoid delusional fantasies of someone who has clear emotional and psychological issues regarding sexual behavior. She may have known that she was technically too young to consent to sex with your nephew (who is also a statutory rapist), but she had no idea that YOU and your craziness were part of the picture.
And why in the world would I give a damn about working with Tarot Cards? Are you mistaking me for someone else?
Your attorney is a liar, incompetent, or comes from the same incredibly fucked-up thought process that you do.
Yeah, my attorney said Rome and Juliet could be a saving grace unless a prosecutor really wants an underaged teen sex case or a case against Roma or someoen tries to claim forcible rape (which is were establishing a paper trail that it was consentual though illegal becomes so important). And then there’s whatever photos, email, texts are in cyberspace.
Attornies are only human. You may have accidentally picked a bad apple. You’re just going to have to believe me that the majority of us are posting in good faith when we think your attorney’s advice is dangerously ill-advised.
It wouldn’t hurt to get a second opinion. At worst it would give you more confidence in your decision.
The age of consent in Texas is 17 (Texas Penal Code Section 21.11). However , “…It is an affirmative defense to prosecution under this section that the actor…was not more than three years older than the victim and of the opposite sex…(and) did not use duress, force, or a threat against the victim at the time of the offence” and is not a registered sex offender
Your lawyer said what???
Whether or not the girl’s caregivers are rational isn’t the issue, here, I think. Regardless of that, if ZPG has her way, the girl is going to be drawn into a public, ugly legal mess because of one woman’s insanity.
Those people’s daughters wouldn’t have had sex with your nephew.
So the real problem is that you want him paranoid like you. Because anytime he has sex he might get accused of rape just because. Because anyone who can read english can see he can’t be charged with satutory rape because of their ages. The Texas law does not allow it. Regardless of ethnic background. :rolleyes:
Do you live in this dimension, hon? Not everywhere in this country is a free-wheeling sexual Paradise. She knew there was a risk to underage sex (age of consent and abstitence are the only things in the local sex ed curriculum) and where we live people do get prosecuted for it. I guess I’m mistaking you for someone who is actually aware of the world around them.
Well, it’s not, really, but I would assume (and admit that I could very well be wrong) that if ZPG has been this boy’s caregiver, he’s already got some weird and not-normal ideas about sex. If the girl has relatively normal ideas about sex, then her thought process in starting the consensual relationship was probably “Yay! Sex!” and not “I need to protect myself from this boy’s completely unstable and vindictive lunatic aunt.”
Wait - in another thread you said there was no such thing as dating for Roma:
Sounds like the kid is doing some serious dating. So isn’t he already outside of your culture? Was he raised in America? If so he probably doesn’t see this stuff remotely the same way. If he is dating people of other backgrounds it sounds like he doesn’t value the culture in the extreme way you do - he might not even particularly identify with it. In that case you are the only one who is making the mountain out of a molehill in dragging race/religion into this. You’re only making things worse.
On way to make it better. Just encourage him to marry the girl.
Then he’s no longer Roma, and presumably no longer your problem, since you don’t deal with people outside your own culture. Wash your hands of the whole deal! Bonus - kid gets to escape your house. It’s win-win!
Ok it has been established that it can’t be statutory rape in your state because they are the same age. So are you ready to admit that your problem is that you found out they are having sex and jumped to the conclusion that she with be falsely accusing him of forcibly raping her? Thats really what this is about. No way your lawyer told you different.
Actually I do. In this country. In this century. And in a world in which rapists do not lurk around every corner plotting to handrape me and in which I am not considered a whore because I shook a man’s hand in public. I know, it’s a frightening country for you to consider, but it’s real, and most of us live there.
And while you keep stating that people get prosecuted for underage sex when both of them are under the age of consent, you’ve provided no proof of that statement as it relates to your particular paranoia.
She knew the “risks” of sex in terms of pregnancy and other issues. She had no idea her life was going to be ruined by a psychotic woman who has so many insane ideas about sex.