I would not say “It isn’t showing up”. It’s showing up lots. But not in a way that necessitates aggressive public health measures to prevent mass death. Folks aren’t willing to wear masks & avoid crowds for the rest of their life to prevent a couple days of the sniffles.
For the truly unfortunate (and mostly the unvaccinated unfortunate), COVID can be a lot more than “a couple days of the sniffles”. For the rest of us, that’s about all it is. The OP’s dilemma is deciding how far towards the former they and their family members are. Then what, if anything, to do about that while the rest of the world has comprehensively moved on.